House or car first??

Context: I’m in my 20’s still living at home with my mum and my child in a 2 bedroom house. Our house isn’t small per se but not necessarily big either, standard I guess. But I do like my own space and sometimes while she’s my bestfriend, me and my mum can clash just like any other mother/daughter relationship. I also feel somewhat guilty that I’ve taken over her house with baby stuff. I don’t drive but have every intention on doing so before LO turns 2 ( he’s 3.5 months). Public transport is very good where I live but (not to sound like a snob) I really don’t like getting on the bus lol. I was always in Ubers before I had my child. I also find it such a hassle bringing my pram and car seat when I’m in a friends/family members car. I can’t decide on what I should go for first? Moving out so I have my own space and LO can have his own bedroom OR passing my test and getting a car so I have the freedom to get out and about whenever I wish? I can only afford one right now but obviously every intention of having both one day. (Side note I’m in the UK if that makes any difference) Xxx

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I say your own place first then after a car. Sounds ideal and reasonable. When you do, you can have your mum watch over your little one while you’re doing your driving lessons and what not. I’m planning on doing mine now as I have been trying to for ages but just haven’t passed it yet. And also money. But yeah do what you feel would be best first. 😊 xo

My only question is...if you move out now, do you think you will ever learn to drive? Knowing that your costs will increase, do you think you'll be able to afford learning to drive and a house?

Honestly staying home is smart financially because your own place theres so many things you need to pay for without realizing it and it seems like you and your mom get along enough. Honestly the guilt aspect it may help to just talk to your mom about it see if she believes youre taking over the house. But to me a car seems more logical it allows you to get out when you need time away from mom but its a much lower expense than a whole place

For me it was 100% car first I still live with my mum with 2 kids luckily in a 3 bedroom house but I found having a car I can go where needed and when you decide to get a job (if don't already have one) or get a better paying job to save for the other thing a car can help you get to that place easier and quicker Plus emergencies you can get in the car and go no waiting for someone etc As above with a house prices will constantly be raising making it harder to save for a car and whilst saving for a house deposit once you have a car you won't be paying off for anything and you won't have higher bills to pay

100% car first personally. I would not be able to afford to learn to drive now that I have moved out, even with my partner helping with bills nevermind once baby is here and if I were doing it alone x

100% car first

I’m in the same boat currently with family and working on getting my own apartment bc it’s already crowded in my room and won’t have worry about drama . Best of luck!

Get the car first. If you get the place first, it’ll be harder to get the car bc that rent never stops. You can get an inexpensive car for your first that’s reliable enough and safe, pay it down or off as much as possible. Then get the place. Talk to your mom. Does she care that her grand baby stuff is everywhere or is she fine and you’re being hard on yourself. Sounds like he has enough space and is safe and gets mom and grandma.

A car can help you get a better job or more money opportunities to get a better place and sooner. A house makes you comfy and eases the tension a little but if your mom isn’t tripping then car

Car first I'd say

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