Guilt getting back into work with a one year old

Have you ladies got back into work after having baby. I’ve always worked in healthcare but had to find a work from home job as doing 12 hour shifts with baby just didn’t seem possible. Found a wfh job that I’ve never done before plus ain’t too interested in. I loved working with patients: Anyways regardless of working from home i still feel bad i cannot attend to my son all the time. My husband is also working from home but has more flexibility but he doesn’t know how to do things i do. I just feel bad because my son was crying for me but i was stuck in meeting.. and for the first time ever he didn’t have his morning nap. His routine without me looking after him completely isn’t the same. Plus I can’t give him the best breakfast have to quickly make egg with ready made pancakes or something which he tries to feed himself. Today I pre made his egg and left it in microwave. Told my husband to warm it up and place on his higher chair along with pancakes but he forgot about the egg..:) so he had half a breakfast. Anyone else struggling with working and being a new mom? What’s everyone’s situations with working like. Do you feel okay with child care whilst at work etc :)

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I went back to work when my little girl was 6 months old and my partner and I both WFH. My partner took the first month off as holiday so he was with her all the time and I know what you mean, he doesn't do things quite the way I do them and it was really hard to hear things going on and not being involved or knowing he wasn't doing things the way I would 😂 My little girl goes to nursery 3 days a week now, I have one day off and my partner has the other and it's much more manageable x

@Monique hearing the chaos in the background today I wanted to scream 😅😅 I’ve not thought about nursery yet. Tbh there is one very close to me what kind of things do 1 year olds get up to in nurseries. How is it going for her I’m gonna have to check out how much it costs etc too :) thank you for the comment

@Lox I didn't realise how much of a control freak I was until I had my daughter, honestly 😂😂 She does stuff like sensory trays, stories, instruments, painting etc. To start with I felt awful about taking her but she's come on so well there and she's made lovely bonds with the staff! Plus I honestly think it's one of the reasons she's come as far as she has with her communication xx

Personally there is just no way you can give your best at a job with a baby at home, he needs to be in a childcare setting and then you’d prob find it’s actually easier to do 3 12hr shifts and your husband do pick up. You’re always going to have part of your attention on your child (which is completely natural and understandable!) and eventually your manager will pick up on it, wfh is not an alternative to childcare xx

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