Am I being crazy?
Show your support
@Gemini I didn’t really care in the past only since I got pregnant the first time and hormonal He doesn’t interact with them just has them come up which is annoying for me In every other way he is a wonderfully supportive partner and father so this is the only thing that gets under my skin I haven’t felt sexy in myself for a while, not his fault he always tells me how beautiful I and that he wants me etc But I just think how could he feel that way about me right now when he enjoys looking at women who are much fitter than I ever was even before we had a baby Maybe it will work maybe it won’t but I wanna try anything to feel more sexy Thanks for the support
If you don't mind me asking how long have you been together and how old are you guys? This used to bother me more at the beginning of my relationship especially as there was an incident of infidelity so that really shattered my opinions of things I went from laid back to caring so much who he was following and interacting with...I drove myself crazy over it to the point of a nervous breakdown! But honestly it wouldn't bother me the same anymore 🤷🏻♀️ it's been a very long amount of time together and I follow who I want and look at what I want and he does the same, it's normal human behaviour I guess 🤷🏻♀️ and even if the people look different that's okay too 👍🏻 I'm not looking at guys that look anything much like my partner 😅 because mine doesn't have abs etc 👌🏻 if you see where I'm coming from. We like to look at stuff sometimes that's okay. I do think there's nothing wrong with buying things to do with an aesthetic if you like the clothes and he likes the outfits too then fe. I know my partner 1/2
Looks at things like specific lingerie so sometimes might buy that because he's into that. I don't get why that's a problem in anyway 😕 clothes are clothes 🤷🏻♀️ like sexy clothes or not 🤦🏻♀️ I think the main problem if us not feeling sexy in ourselves, I've also really not felt good lately. Something to bring that spark back can be great for us and our partners can enjoy our new found confidence too. Definitely focus on yourself first and worry about him later. Lots of men are like this and it isn't necessarily disrespectful? I think that depends on how he treats you generally and if he's willing to have a discussion about everyone's feelings around it and come to some agreement or truce if you will of understanding. Best of luck ❤️ xx 2/2
@Emily thanks so much sharing 💕 We’ve been together for 13 years I’m 35 and he’s almost 40. It never really bothered me before getting pregnant the first time etc. I don’t look at other people coz I’m not into it. In every other way he’s really supportive and loving and says he only desires me etc so he says he’s not being disrespectful With being hormonal I’m not feeling sexy so I guess I’m just experimenting with the clothes, coz I’m more of a Tomboy and non form fitting person unless it’s a special occasion so I’m just gonna see if having more form fitting stuff on a daily basis will help?
Oh bless a long while then, if this hasn't been an issue before, did he not follow these people before? Or genuinely you've just felt different about it now? Pregnancy can do a lot to us mentally and physically so its understandable if uou feel different and of course it's totally okay if you feel different as we're always growing and changing and sometimes we need different things from our partners so it's okay to tell him if it's upsetting you now. Also if he's in his 40s then he's probably quite set in his ways. I doubt he'll be making any big changes soon and will most likely want to continue following various woman. That's fe if you don't I can't imagine never looking at anyone 😆 you don't even follow anyone on YouTube or TikTok who you'd consider attractive?? 🤔 and hmm well if in every other way he's a good partner then I think you've caught a good one? He probably genuinely doesn't see how it is in any way disrespectful. I can relate to that I've been a tomboy my whole life and it's hard to feel 1/2
Comfortable and sexy in stereotypical "feminine" clothes and same about the form fitting situation only on special occasions where I've managed to wear a dress maybe. Definitely experiment if that's what you want. Maybe try to have a heart to heart with him how you haven't felt so good lately so you've taken some inspiration from woman he likes and you're going to see if it makes you feel any different, maybe you could ask him to join in by giving you compliments randomly or showing physical affection by just putting his arm round you etc. I find that sometimes, the little things really add up in a relationship and can make more difference than anything else 2/2 xx
Personally I just think it’s disrespectful in a relationship to follow provocative women models etc I was like that when I had no hormones and I would be furious with my hormones now if that was the case.. but we have boundaries rules set about my hubby not following other women Maybe you would talk to him and he should unfollow I think it’s rude and very disrespectful And no you’re not being crazy, why can’t u order clothes like them I mean that’s what he’s into right ? Sorry you’re dealing with this !