My Mother won't listen to me! (Rant)

Me, my son and my partner all live in my mum's house. We moved in when my son was 2 months old to help my mum out with her mortgage as my dad was no longer in the picture. My son is now 1 and a half and has started hitting people (adults and children). Me and my partner have been trying to get him to stop and showing him how to be gentle. It's hard work but we are getting there. I have told my mum many times not to make it into a joke when he hits because that encourages him to do it more so her solution is to shout at him. I have told her that shouting also isn't a good idea because he is doing it to get a reaction and this is the reaction that he finds funny. She started snapping at me and saying that she brought up 2 children just fine (me and my brother are ,in fact, not just fine🙃 not all her fault but she cannot compare bringing up me and my brother to how she interacts with my son) trying to create boundaries with my mum is so frustrating. She doesn't listen and thinks she knows best

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Hey love I went through something similar with my mom. I suggest having a private conversation with her and telling her how you feel. Let her know that her advice is valued but ultimately it is your decision the way you bring up your child because you had him. Everyone has different parenting styles and in this case she has to respect yours because it’s her grandson not her son. It’s hard because it’s your mom but if you don’t sit and establish boundaries now that he’s little it’ll lead to more issues in the long run. don’t feel bad for speaking out about your munchkin because it’s important raising him the way you want to. Wishing you the best 🤍

@Kristel thank you. It's difficult to get her to understand because we are not from England but we live here. I don't speak my native language as well as I used to and my mum doesn't speak any English so getting her to listen to me is hard. She likes to cut me off when I'm trying to think of the words I'm looking for and say "I know I know" but she doesn't which is even more frustrating.

Takes mother outside and points to house See this? This is your house Points to self See me? I'm your very not just fine daughter that put tons of work into myself to be where I'm at today Points to son See this? This is MY son. Wether you accept it now or not you are in your grandmother era now. If you begin working against me, I will advise my child that you are no longer an authority figure and your word has no say. This can go whichever path you choose. There is no available path to disrespect me as a mother nor any room to not follow how I parent my son

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