Should I just get over it?
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Sadly, this appears to be male mentality all over the globe!
It sounds really shitty of him, to be honest. I’d make plans to go away for the weekend and leave him with the little one and see how much cooking and cleaning he manages to do 😂
It sounds like he's missing the point of having a child. Both of you take care of him. It took two people to make him, both take care of him.... . He watches and plays with the child when you ; need to finish your own plate of dinner in peace, need to run to the restroom, want an evening shower because that's easier than trying a morning or afternoon one., while you do the dishes he can be playing with his son ... And he should play with kid too!! Have toys out for kid, yes.... But also interact with him!!!! That's his little buddy !!
I find that the best way to approach cleaning is do what you can when you can. Babywearing when I can. And I love our toddler playpen. Stay at home moms are basically on call parents and also on call housekeepers. Both at the same time.
My husband games or reads ( or sometimes both) ..... But he absolutely is fine with me dropping kid off in the computer room ( where I also have a PC ) ... So I can have time away from kiddo .... At all .... Even if it's just to eat without getting overstimulation from his squealing
So yes, being a dad is totally supposed to be more than working and PC/console gaming. He should be playing more games with his little guy.... Than he does without him. As bad as it sounds, make a rule for him. No console /PC games until _____( child) is asleep for the night .
@Giorgia exactly I told him my job never ends if that’s how he sees it. I’ve asked what happens when my money runs out and he doesn’t have a solution. He doesn’t want to put him in daycare but wants me to keep paying for stuff with no job 🙄 feel like it’s just a plot to make me go crazy 🤪
You need a job if his money cannot support both your personal things and family things
you need a break, he needs to help, its his kids too. I agree with you. He thinks hes only supposed to be there financially but hes missing the emotional support you get from being with your kids. I dont get men, its not his step kids he has to do more than just work, he has a damily responsibility and work responsibility.
He should definitely do something as well, especially in the weekend. If taking care of his son in the weekend is a second job for him, what about you doing it 24/7?? But most importantly: if you're not working and he expects you to do all the house/child care, you should 100% not have to pay for anything apart from extras for yourself, how does he even expect you to cover food and baby stuff??