I need some advice…

Sounds like your better off without him tbh. You and baby don't need that atmosphere x

Leave cut all ties , but give him access to his child. I will say children do need some independence but not all the time parents help a child to grow and learn, your ex sounds like a prick! How dare he say all those nasty malicious things to you. You deserve to be happy and in a healthy relationship with someone who treats you how you deserve to be treated. And I pray you find that but you will not find that in your baby's dad. I'm sorry love . 🫶

He sounds like a disgusting piece of 💩 I would never go back. He’s wrong, babies cannot entertain themselves. That’s the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard. My ex said similar. It translates to, I want to be a lazy parent

I’m so sorry you are going through this. If I were in your situation I would set aside the emotions and think logically. I am someone who thrives on connection and leaving a relationship even if it was emotionally abusive was very difficult for me, I stayed in a very emotionally toxic marriage for 17 years. I had to build myself up and love myself to finally be able to believe that I could do it alone. If I were to be in that situation, I would leave. I wouldn’t not allow someone to treat me that way and talk to me that way and that is because like he mentioned I am self sufficient. My ex was full of words and flowers and he was also an asshole and now at 37, I wish I would have had the strength and confidence I have now to walk away. I stayed because I was afraid, I was full of fear of the unknown and doing it alone and it took me 17 years to work through that fear and I filled for divorce. This is a lot more information than you asked for, I hope sharing my story is helpful

It’s sounds like a nice future with him isn’t possible and tbh how he treated you was probably how he treated his older child’s mum. As this behaviour will keep happening babe and I’m sorry he won’t change. And if he is a permanent fixture in your life like that your child will not have a happy life seeing his behaviour on repeat in their own home. Babies cannot entertain themselves or be self sufficient. And the comments he made to you will be made to the baby. Please leave.

I think you’re going to be the most amazing single mum. Cut him off apart from coparenting situation

@Emma he actually said he’s not interested in active parenting… and the fact he doesn’t want anyone depending on him which goes against the whole purpose of raising a family where we’re supposed to take care of one another.. I’m just confused if I should still be emotionally invested in him or call it quit

@Dominique thank you for sharing! The thing is that I’m still emotionally invested in him because I’m not able to accept the failure of not raising a family with the father of my child… but it needs to be a loving and healthy family so idk what to do..

@Elle I’m still stuck on the dream of raising a family and coparenting with him will probably not be easy….

I’m sorry my love but the dream is possible just not with him. And yeah co parenting won’t be easy I’m co parenting with one and it’s hard but I’m telling you it’s much easier than doing it with them in the same home.

@Lou thank you so much for your kind words ❤️ I’ve been living alone with my baby for a year now and I do feel my son saved me because deep down I know the situation would have gotten way way worse if I stayed

@Ray I struggle with the thoughts of having to share Christmas, birthdays, special events… I dont want to miss any important moments from my sons life 😔 Thank you for your kind words!

I totally hear you, I get it and I can relate. That was so important to me. They say that when the bad outweighs the good and you can honestly no longer look at the relationship being in the best interest of the kids and you then you will be ready and only you can decide what that looks like. It’s the fantasy that keeps up same. The reality is though what we should focus on. It’s so much easier to look at what it could be then what is because it keeps us safe. I send you love, light and strength, which ever direction you go in! You got this either way! 💕🥰

Im sorry you’re going through this but I’m glad you were able to walk away when you did. Just think if it’s ok for your child to see you with a person that treats you like that.

He seems to want the benefits of a relationship and family without the responsibilities. I think you’re better off without him but should definitely make sure he always has access the baby. The things he’s said and done are horrible and I’m sorry that you had to go through that. You’ll be better off without him

@Alicia I agree with you, I even told him that and he got extra defensive.. Thank you 🙏

I was a single mum for ten years to two very young children. I know you’re going to be an amazing mum. If it’s safe and healthy let little one see dad whenever suits you but cut him off for everything else as he doesn’t deserve your time ❤️