How do you get through it?

I just had his son back in April of this year and when our son was barely 4 and a half months old he told me that he did not feel the same way for me anymore and he wasn’t happy and he’s not willing to try to even work on things. We got engaged last December and it’s just mind blowing to me that he could so quickly change his mind. It’s clear he should never have become a father because I never knew he was so selfish. I’m currently still living with him until my mom clears the space for me to move back in with her and my stepdad. He is trying to make me feel like I am doing something wrong by leaving. Like he expected that he could dump me and break my heart and that me and the baby would just keep living here like nothing happened. It’s crazy because I hate what he’s done to me and our baby but I still care about him and love him so damn much. Part of me hopes that he will wake up and realize that he doesn’t want to lose me. But I know I just need to accept that it’s really over. How did you ladies deal with the heartache?
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By dealing honestly. It’s soo hard but my best advice to to feel it. Feel the emotions so it won’t come up later after putting it off so much.

@Neveah yea I think it will be a lot easier once I’m moved out because I cry literally everyday being here.

Hope you feel better once you’re out of there

I started to think in terms of how I'd like a friend to treat me. Respect, kindness, consideration & help are all such lovely things to receive in life. Especially if a loved one, partner or co-parent treats you this way. You should shift your mindset to thinking in terms of friendship with him, and consider if you would like his friendship in your life. You can mourn the loss of the love & future you thought you had privately. You cant make someone do something they dont want to do. He's an adult & making his own choices, and thus, so can you.

@Lauren thank you Lauren that is a great way to look at things

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