My fiancé wants his mom in the birthing room with us and I do not!

Long story short, this is our first baby. My mom will be coming up from the south to be with me in the birthing room but he also wants his mom there. Now I’m sure we all know that we should only have a couple people max in the room with us not including the doctor delivering. We don’t plan on having a doula or midwife so my only support system will be my mother and fiancée. He wants his mother in there as well, I guess so she can witness her grandchild being born .. but to me, that’s not what it about. It’s about who is going to give me the best support that I need and the least amount of stress when I push this first baby out. Which is terrifying enough. Anyone else have this issue? How do you get your man to understand that the only person you want around for your first birth is him and your mommy? Ps I was raised by mom so she is my life and the only person I truly want with me doing this for the first time.

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It’s YOUR CHOICE.

it honestly is ur choice and u should express that if ur not comfortable with her being there its a very intimate moment that u only get once and she can always come after baby is born

First of all congrats! Second you should really sit down and set boundaries with him. I know it is easier said than done. You need to stand your ground. This is your birth and you should feel comfortable when in such a vulnerable state. You can set the middle ground her being there after you settle down after having the baby. Ultimately it should be your choice.

In the uk we can only have max 2 people in the room is this the case for you?, anyway it’s your choice and if he keeps on i would tell him he won’t be in the room either 🤣!

If you arent comfortable with her in the room, dont budge. You will be spread eagle, everything on show. Most likely will poop. Yeah, shes a woman, but its your first time. Make it a good experience. Talk to them that you dont mind her coming after, but you want it a small experience. And yes, you having your mom there and not his is different. She birthed you, saw you naked since day one. Your mil is a new person. Boundaries should be set now, or you will be pushed around.

Ask if he’d feel comfortable eagle spread pushing a watermelon sized shit in front of your mom?

Be straight up with him, it’s your body as well and what matters is you and baby. She will live if she doesn’t see the birth lol. It’s a very vulnerable experience and you want the people that comfort you/ You’re gonna do amazing, I had my mom there too and she was my doula basically and took so good care of me and supported me in every way possible and the birth was wonderful, the adrenaline will make you so excited, you got this.

He ultimately doesn’t get a day. It’s your birthing experience. And most hospitals have a 2 person max. So it’s your husband and your mom. MIL has to sit this one out in the waiting room like everyone else. My first: I had my mom and my brother until my husband arrived(he was in the military at the time and had to fly in) My second: I had my husband and my bff.

@Sharnee 😂😂😂😂

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