Men😐

It’s safe to say I personally do not understand men at alllll. Your baby is about to be born and you’re more excited about a GAME??? we as women all deserve so much better

@Carly I don’t think I will ever understand men. I’m a gamer so don’t get my wrong I understand being excited but wait till we get home then have at it while me and lil man are napping or while I’m breastfeeding I’d love to watch him play it but not at the dang hospital.

I mean why not let him play , lots of downtime he doesn’t have to be on it the entire time but maybe wen your sleeping?

Yesss exactly. Not when you need emotional support during a time that is traumatic for many other women like. It seems you’re still very supportive of him and his games but just not the right time at all. You need someone to support you and be strong for you and to be available to mentally, emotionally and physically help you!

Oh hell no I would honestly tell him he can just not come at all if he is not going to be there to give you his full attention and support. He is there for you and plus him inviting more people than you’re comfortable with also no. This is not a time to be selfish nor is it a spectator sport for his whole family. You need to put your foot down before Friday and if you can’t be on the same page they don’t need to be there 🤷🏻‍♀️ you don’t need to be stressed and upset that he’s more concerned about a game than you and your baby.

I think it is 100% fair not to want a video game in your hospital room. My husband has been pretty good about whatever I say I want at the hospital, but I think a good conversation we had at one point was when I pointed out that even though we’re both there for our baby, I’m actually a patient and he is not. Therefore, I have patient privileges of things like choosing music, determining the temperature in the room, deciding who can and can’t come in and when. For example, I’m going to be ok with my mom visiting in the hospital before his dad because I’m the patient so I get my mom. Even though it’s obvious to us that we’re the patient, I think some people are so focused on the baby they forget that part and need a little reminding

Sounds like he’s foreshadowing that you’ll be taking care of the baby alone while he plays the game.

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My man isn’t such a gamer but he’s big on watching TikTok live (and very loud at that) When I first told him that I wanted none of that during the labor process he was a little bit defensive, but once I calmly and respectfully explained that the whole process is already overwhelming for me and adding extra noise is too much for me (and that I’d rather be present together in those moments that are the culmination of our mutual desire to have this baby) he understood my wishes and has agreed to have no TikTok on during the process It might help for you to say something like “I’m more than ok to let you play after// ____, but during the process I’d appreciate if you can do your part to support me in doing mine”

GIRLLLL my man was in there tryna watch the damn football game. I don’t give a rats ass if your a die hard fan, TURN IT OFFFFFFF. I relate so hard, and for me it’s like I just cannot understand how missing ONE game is such a big deal, when you literally can go back and rewatch it.. you can not rewatch my labor which I tried so hard to explain. He tried it a few times and I finally had to really yell at him to turn it tf off. 😅

Honestly, I would let my husband as long as he members his headset because it would get him to leave me alone for a bit cause when I'm in pain I like being left alone or at least in quiet. But, I can completely understand why you wouldn't want that.