When does Stella get her groove back

girl use that house cleaning energy to do some light floor workouts at home so you don’t have to worry about what to wear

i do the bare minimum around the house (:

also weaning was a long process but you’ll sleep so much better when you do it. we used to co sleep all night but i started following this guide and now she sleeps alone on a floor bed by my side of the bed https://www.drjaygordon.com/blog-detail/sleep-changing-patterns-in-the-family-bed-most-popular-topic-fzb6w

@Andrea ugh I wish I could let go. I’ve been ADD about cleanliness since the day I was born. Our house was also built in late 50’s so if you don’t keep it up it starts to feel “unliveable” real fast. Because I’m at home with the kiddo so much it has to be clean for me to function. It’s the only ‘control’ I have and it’s necessary for my mental health. Although it is, for sure, tiring.

i’m pregnant with my second and another thing that can help you level hormones and increase motivation is homeopathy! my mother got me onto it and i saw improvement

@Andrea was the Jay gorgon method hard? Been wanting to start that for a while

@Jade I would say it was relatively easy to follow. It was a lot of tweaking and having to stand your ground to not give into nursing more than once in the night to begin. I would nurse her to sleep x1 anytime before 11pm then if she woke up i would try to soothe without nursing (lay with her and use binky or just massage her back) then i would do what i could to not nurse again until 6-7am. some nights we could follow the guide and some nights i allowed more than one session (like if she was sick or going through a spurt) in conclusion : lots of tweaking and finding what worked (mainly moving her out of my bed bc i found that our tossing and turning would wake her up and be a signal that she could nurse) i don’t have an exact time frame but it took about 3 weeks to decrease night feeds, down to only feeding on right breast bc left wasn’t producing much and then maybe another 2-3 weeks of rejecting her requests and letting her feel the emotions (crying made her more sleepy) …

after she finally came off the breast completely it’s been 2 weeks of comforting her to sleep but now it’s been 1 week of me just laying next to her face to face , light massages and she falls asleep faster , no fuss & sleeps practically through the night. she’s wake once and i’ll lay with her to comfort her then get up and get in my bed and she won’t wake up until 7:30am and then sleep next to me until i’m ready to get out of bed so 9-9 most nights LONG PROCESS IM TELLING YOU BUT SO REWARDING. finally have my own space (mostly) lol

i will add , a lot of her comforting to sleep happens by allowing her to hang one hand in my shirt and wiggle it around in there til she sleeps. it’s so annoying sensory wise but it’s what works for her.. i’m not gonna take that way from her just yet but i do communicate to her when she’s scratching me and how i don’t like..she gets mad when i complain but i explain that it’s my body and i can say what i don’t like

@Andrea hes slept through the night since month 10 and only nurses in the AM and PM. Sometimes during the day on the weekend! Plan to completely stop by 2. Wish me luck!