I miss my old life

You’re not alone. I’ve cried so many tears for my old life, grieving the freedom I had but didn’t appreciate, and missing my partner despite him being right here next to me. It’s definitely got better though, I’m adjusting to a new ‘normal’ and finding joy in the little things and my baby. It’s been a process so hopefully it fades for you too but don’t feel guilty in the meantime, it’s completely normal.

sending love, you're definitely not alone in this. I cried a couple of times in the past month and missing my old life, trying to get used to the new "normal". they said the more active you were pre baby, the harder it is now try to adjust. it will take time and everything will slowly to get back go normal or semi normal , now is the hardest and it's only temporary ! xoxo

Definitely such an adjustment with so many different emotions. I try to just ground myself by saying I gave up the freedom of my life before to create this little human that gives me so much love. And that’s something to be really proud of because it’s one of the hardest things you can go through. ❤️

For me, this is the hardest part about having a baby—mourning how easy things used to be…having to adjust your life and hobbies, all while trying to maintain your sense of self and incorporating motherhood at the same time. Everyday I wish I could go back but that would mean my angel wouldn’t be here. It’s a huge adjustment. Just know you’re not alone. Therapy and writing helps me manage my emotions. Having a healthy outlet is important, otherwise you’ll go crazy. Sending you virtual hugs 🤗❤️

Thank you for posting this. I started crying reading the post and the comments. I feel exactly the same and I feel so selfish. I love my LO but I miss feeling like a person not a food source and I miss my relationship with my partner. I feel so alone

@Sophie this!! Especially the bit about your partner.

Omgggg i thought i was the only one and when i tell people I just get shamed for it. Being a mom is difficult for not reason

Wait until a few more years and honestly you won’t miss it. Babies and toddlers are hard work! All I ever did was miss my old life. But now that my kids are over 3 years old I honestly do not miss my life before. ❤️

@Mary I really thought newborns and toddlers would be the best time because they’re little and cute?

@Priya babies and toddlers are super cute don’t get me wrong. But…after the age of 3 kids begin to become much more independent. It makes your life easier. And they start having proper conversations with you, I love the conversations I have with my kids ❤️

I feel this and felt it very intensely when my baby was little. When he was a couple of weeks old, I remember thinking, "What have I done?!" - it would have been hormones too, but nothing can prepare you for how intensely your life is suddenly adjusted to looking after a baby that needs you all the time. Things have got easier, and now, at 15 months, I've adjusted , but I do still miss the freedom sometimes... but I wouldn't give up my baby for anything at all. It's hard because you feel so torn. It definitely gets better though 🙂 x