Would anyone be annoyed with this?

Yes, I would be annoyed

Whether I'd be annoyed or not would depend on what kind of day I'd had lol

Is he going away for work?

Yes, it sounds like he’s worked out what’s best for him without considering what might be best for your family as a whole.

@Ashley no, going away with friends

@Rebecca a stressful one dealing with 2 poorly kids

Yeah that’s would piss me off. My husband left on a work trip for 3 days and made sure I was as taken care of with our two kids as possible before leaving. That meant leaving at 3 am to catch a 5 am flight so he could be there to help with bedtime the night before. All without me asking. Inunderstand people plan trips in advance but I’d be pretty bothered if he left me alone with a newborn and a toddler for leisure and didn’t try to at least stick around and help til the very end.

Yes! Why wouldn’t that be a joint decision?? Odd really and rather selfish

Yes I’d be annoyed too. And ask when it’s your turn.

yes!!! He should not leave you alone with a newborn and a toddler

Sorry but he shouldn’t be going away with a newborn ANDa toddler at home. Unless it’s an essential work trip I’d assume he’s cheating and start my exit plan in secret!! Who texts and says oh by the way I won’t be home tonight I’m going to my mums…

@Rebekah didn’t think of that, your probably right 😢

Don't let what Rebekah said get to you OP. Is it possible? Yes. Is it just as likely, if not more so, that he just didn't think? Heck yes. Men can be clueless for reasons I can not fathom. I'd be annoyed, and I'd be having a conversation when he got home because, yeah, what he did is not acceptable. Also, I wouldn't be agreeing to my partner going away unless we had both discussed how things would work, how I would still have support, etc and I only have 1 child and he is not a newborn. I'm sorry you are dealing with this OP. Do you have people you can call for company and help?

Yes if he’s going away with friends that’s so wrong!!! It’s not that important that he couldn’t come home and help one more night before he leaves. Rude. lol Plus aren’t you guys partners? Why didn’t he ask you if he was okay to leave the kids in your care , instead of just telling you. Just saying your feelings are valid for being upset

I'd be very annoyed, it seems very selfish of him. 😞🫂