AITA?

Okay a little back story….My(28F) husband (30m)is a great guy don’t get me wrong here. We had our first son 18 months ago. He helps watch our son when I need to make dinner, when I sleep in on Saturdays, he does the trash, more dishes than I do, he mainly feeds the dogs, and he works from home 8-6 Monday through Thursday. I’m a SAHM, I try to do the laundry when needed, I watch our son during the days and Friday and Sunday when my husband sleeps in, I get up at night with him, I take him to dr when sick unless my husband is off he can go with us. I also make dinners and schedule Dr appointments, I also am due to have our second baby in December. We also just moved to a new house and trying to sell our old one, so we are paying two mortgages. I just started taking on the responsibility of paying bills (my husband thought it would be better so I knew how much we actually had to spend freely a month). Now onto the issue. (Note: My son has been sick the past couple weeks with cold, hand foot and mouth, ear infection, and is teething and going through sleep regression) This past Saturday from 1-5am my son kept waking up screaming and crying every 15 minutes. I tried soothing him, he didn’t have a fever, I really didn’t know what to do. I was starting to lose patience. My husband who claimed he only woke up slightly at 1:30 and when I woke him up at 4:30, was sleeping. (Mind you we had to be up at me (6:30) my husband (7:30) that morning to travel two hours away to an event for family. Never once during the night did he wake up and ask if I needed help or if I was okay. The next morning he told me he heard me and the baby but went back to sleep because one of us had to drive. That night we got into an argument which turned into a two day argument. He went to sleep Sunday night while I cried in the bathroom. I wrote him a long text explaining why I was upset, saying all I wanted was for him to just ask me if I needed help once cause I’m also the one to get up with him because he is a hard sleeper and won’t wake up. I told him he’s able to have stress relievers like special vape, reg vape, alcohol…. And I can’t have that. His retort to that is that I have crocheting and tik tok. I also claimed that moms have to be moms 24/7 but dads can “take time off” drink and smoke…. He thinks I should wake him up and ask for help “like an adult” instead of having a toddler tantrum as he put it. He thinks I’m making him sound like a shitty dad, and I never said that. I think he’s a great dad I just want help every so often in the middle of the night or just ask if I need help. He also said that it’s not his responsibility to make sure I need help at night, and he also said that he doesn’t see why we both need to be up when I can nap when he naps and he would lose his job cause he’d be tired. So AITA for getting so upset with him not helping me Saturday night when I was losing patience? Should I just suck it up and deal with it and apologize? Edit: we didn’t go to bed until 12-12:30 that night…. He also did get up at 4:30 after trying to wake him up 5 times until I yelled for help.