Another deflated pregnant person

I just found out today at 39 weeks I’m only 3/5 engaged roughly. And that was at a push 😂 I feel like I have nothing else to do the house is completely ready, bags packed. I’ve been walking 10k steps per day, drinking raspberry tea, eating pineapple and doing the ‘deed’ with my partner. I’ve been very motivated and positive up until this point and I just feel like how am I going to get through a possible 3 weeks more 🙄 My partner knocks off for paternity leave on Friday until I am 41 weeks and I feel terrible because he only gets a that small amount of time. And it certainly doesn’t look like baby will be here by 41. But he had to put in and secure the dates with work - his job is not that flexible as he has an important role!

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I am exactly the same as you, everything you listed above is what I’m doing. It’s certainly not easy all this waiting around with nothing to do. Try and stay positive and keep your mind occupied. Are you able to move your partners paternity so that it doesn’t start until baby is here? That’s what I’m doing

I think legally your partners paternity leave shouldn’t start until the baby is here, as I don’t think he could take it all prior to the babies arrival unless he is only taking annual leave. My partners work lets him start it on whenever the baby arrives as long as they know roughly the due date. It would be worth touching base with his HR to figure out if it can be at least at little flexible or if they can plan for him being off any time in a four week window so he doesn’t miss out!

39+1 and only 4/5 engaged, been booked in for a sweep next week but hoping I can do anything to get this little guy come before then.

https://www.gov.uk/paternity-pay-leave/leave hey he legally shouldn’t start his paternity until baby is born his work will need to be flexible and wait till baby is here! Xx

I went from barely engaged and closed cervix to holding my baby in 23 hours! This time round I’ve been engaged and dilated since 34 weeks and no signs of labour coming! Try not to stress about it. It doesn’t really mean anything

I’m the same. My due date was yesterday so at my appointment today I was 40+1 and baby is only 4/5 palpable, so only just beginning to engage. He’s been like that for the last 3 weeks despite my efforts to try and get him to drop by walking, crawling around on all fours, using a birthing ball to do figure of 8s etc. 🥴 I also felt really disheartened, but trying to stay positive. Things can change quickly and we’ll be meeting our little one’s soon one way or another even if they keep us waiting for another week or two. As others have said, legally paternity leave begins only once baby is born, so hopefully your partner’s work will have to accommodate some level of flexibility otherwise they would be breaking the law. Best wishes for your baby to arrive soon and that you stay comfortable and find some good positive distractions until the day arrives x

@Amanda what are we like 🙈😂 I bet as soon as it does happen we will be wishing we could just have one more day of peace and no pain 😅

My partner is able to move the week which he found out today which is great. It’s just the paternity week (through work) he can’t move. Well he can but he needs to apply again and wait for dates to be accepted x thanks all.

i wasn't engaged at 39 weeks and didn't feel like i'd really had any signs of labour approaching. at 40 weeks exactly i still felt like nothing was happening, but went into labour that evening and baby was born 5 hours later! things can change so quickly. hope things work out well and baby arrives soon xx

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