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Different things may get you in the mood now as a lot changes when you have a baby! Maybe have a sit down with him and tell him you want to try together to fix this as you don’t want it to be a barrier in your relationship. Treat it as if you’re strangers figuring out what the new person likes and just start from scratch in a pressure free environment
I understand. During my post partum and even know a year later my body goes through periods where i just cant and dont feel the urge to do it. Part of it to do with my healing and how weird i felt and the other was because i was insecure of my body. But my bf was really gentle about it. Lots of praise and compliments and reassurance really got my libido up. I say talk with your bf and really let him know whats going on in your head. The 4 month mark was the hardest for me because my son was going through sleep regression and he had night day confusion. Me and my bf talked and slept more than we did anything. But that built our personal intimacy and not our sexual. Just let him know whats going on. Itll help you emotionally and help you guys find what works again. The first year of babys life is the hardest for parents and mental intimacy is just as important or more than physical intimacy at this stage
You just had a baby four months ago. Your brain is physically and chemically altered. You’re probably exhausted because babies wake up multiple times a night do a couple night shifts so you can sleep. Have him help you out more. I learned the more that my husband helps the more likely I am to actually get in the mood because I was feeling that way too up to six months postpartum and I finally got him to like understand that I’m exhausted mentally physically emotionally exhausted between taking care of a baby doing night feeds, cleaning the house taking care of the animals I’m exhausted and every physical way that you can be exhausted and got a little better once you started helping out I’m only seven months postpartum so it might be up and down, but you need to sit down and explain to him like what’s going on in your body and brainbecause men don’t understand and it’s not necessarily their fault