Family members

Has anyone experienced having family members who seem to be interested in your child, but don't actually make any effort? My sister asks questions and wants pictures. But she lives about 3 hours away and has never visited. She is bit older and has no kids. I have invited her over multiple times she just changes topic. I'm almost thinking. Is there any point speaking to her? At one point my child will start asking about auntie and is there point trying to make effort? Really struggling with this in my head. I don't want to make ultimatums , I don't want to lose the total relationship but not sure. Wondered if anyone dealing with similar?
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Could she be struggling with the the fact that kids hasn’t happened for her yet? It might be worth having a conversation about it and finding out as the reason may be because she is hurting about not having her own, not because she is not interested. It may not be that, just wanted to put that out there just in case it could be as this is really common. Could you offer to visit her? We have the battle with some family of “you didn’t invite us over” “well you didn’t invite us either” and it’s very frustrating x

@Ani thank you. Asking her is not an option. She really is never been person who would talk about feeling and emotions. Anytime I ask something semi personal she point blank ignores the question. 😁 that's why my husband says to just stop talking to her. Also she never asnwrs phone it's only WhatsApp.. how is this so messy 🤣

It’s so hard isn’t it. Could you just say we are going to visit (and give a date) and then just see what happens. I find it so hard communicating only on messages. It makes me wonder if she’s going through something or having a hard time and wants to avoid you finding out. It’s very hard to support someone like this. We have it in our family and it’s virtually impossible to maintain

I agree, sounds like something is going on beneath the surface in my opinion x

I second the above. Something seems off with her. At the end of the day, blood is blood. I get the family you create is more important than the family you were born into but she doesn't seem to do anything that bad. Maybe you can visit?

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