terrible twos?

is anyone else’s little one displaying the “terrible twos” yet? my son has been displaying what i can only imagine the “terrible twos” are, and i honestly don’t know what to do.. i feel like i’m failing him 🥲 he cries multiple times a day, and i mean he screams, like i’m hurting him! he cries when he wakes up, he cries when i change his nappy or get him dressed, he cries after he’s eaten breakfast, he cries before we leave the house, he cries if we say he can’t do something (which i expect)- he throws toys in anger, smacks things and even tries to smack me and his dad (only gently as he knows it’s wrong but still)… i feel like i’m doing something wrong, he just seems stressed all the time and i don’t know if i’m doing the right thing. it’s causing me daily upset as i hate seeing him so irritated. i just want to make sure that 1) this is normal and 2) that i’m doing the right thing by him and dealing with it right 🥺 can anyone shed some light for me please? i feel so alone in this 😔

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Mines doing the same except the screaming as he will only do that if we tell him off. But the hitting is crazy as he never did this and throwing his toys when he’s angry. We used to do time outs but this seems to not be working too well anymore so now we try to cuddle to calm down and read a story or sing to him to calm him down. I have noticed though he does seem to be worse the more tired he is. So we go out after he’s had his nap so he doesn’t do it when we are out 😂🙈

My son’s going through the exact same thing and it’s good to hear he’s not the only one tbh!! But the terrible twos has its name for a reason I suppose, if that’s any comfort to hear🩷 So you’re not failing him at all! We live in a block of flats with other children and sometimes he will scream the place down over something as small as me putting his nappy in the bin and not him! And sometimes I feel as if I’m being judged as a bad mum cause he kicks off so often if doesn’t get his way! But as long as they know we love them and are their as a happy safe space we are doing good✨🫶🏼

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My daughter has been going through the terrible twos since she was about 18m… she screams like she is hurt when she doesn’t get what she wants exactly when she wants it. She throws herself on the floor and everything! I let her feel her feelings whilst maintaining whatever boundary e.g. I understand you are feeling angry/ sad because you want to…. But I am doing/ saying… to keep you… and then say if you need a hug I am here. Not sure if it is the right way to deal with it . Sometimes she just needs to let her screams out and finish her own tantrum and then she is ready for comfort and cuddles…etc.

It's hit us over the past few weeks, it's mostly aimed at me. Goes nuts if he doesn't have his way. It's really hard and I do feel like I'm failing him but I try to just be calm and speak clearly. I was actually shocked when I was dealing with a tantrum last night , I think it was about a snack after you take your shoes off .... after what felt like a lifetime he finally stopped crying and went yes and did it 😂😂🤦‍♀️. I was like wait what just happened!

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