Hey ladies; What would you do? Sen child aggression

I would be mad but I would let it slide this one time only if I got genuine apology. If it happened again I would take it further action.

So if this child went to your nursery and part of his ASD was regulation through throwing stuff and maybe pulling hair/slapping but doesn't understand you would expect the nursery to react how?

How do you know that is his way of regulating? But I agree with Karolina I’d let it go on that occasion they’re trying, it hasn’t worked that time but hopefully it will all come together. Or do you think because this child has ASD and the way he regulates you don’t like he shouldn’t be at the nursery?

I know it's his way of regulation because that's how ASD works. I'm just trying to understand how other parents would react to a child behaving like this around their children.

The child mostly does it to adults etc but obviously on occasion when walking around can push past other kids or just come along and take a toy from another child not understand and throw things and could hit other children and has been occasion when another child is on floor/playing and the child pulls the hair or hits at their body. (It only seems aggressive when the child is overwhelmed/distressed by emotions, which is why it normally only happens with adults but being around a lot of children for long period of time it is bound to happen occasionally to the other children, especially if the staff aren't watching correctly

Interesting, I don’t know a lot about ASD I thought the “aggression” was the frustration/dysregulation.

Yes it is it's a form of them trying to regulate because they don't understand their emotions and what they are feeling so they harm themselves/act out at others to try and calm/regulate themselves

My son does have autism and he did last out when he was younger and had very impulsive behaviour. I would speak to the nursery again if it happens. I assume Uk. There was an incident with mine and after that I think they were given extra funding for him to have a 1-1. I would not approach the parents. I’ve had that before. Not pleasant. It was snowing. She basically accused my 3 year old pre verbal son of bullying hers. Unfortunately not much I could do about it apart from take the local authority to court three times. She also didn’t really understand what autism was (although not an excuse).

Great thank you for sharing your experience

My friends son is non verbal and has awful aggression he pushed an old lady over in BNM into a pile of stock bleach. She was so upset and so embarrassed but at the same time she wasn’t keeping an eye on him because she said she was trying to keep him away from her other two. She got him 1-1 for the safety of other kids. If theyre that aggressive for safety of little ones they should have 1-1. Why should another child be severely hurt? It’s not either child’s fault but nursery should keep an extra eye.

So @Sinead you would blame nursery not parents

This happened in my daughter’s old nursery when she was 3. A boy with SEN used to bite my daughter. After the second time it happened I requested a meeting with the manager and staff room leader to discuss how they could handle the situation better. It led to my daughter and the other child not being together in any groups for activities and they also got a new 1:1 SEN assistant for the child as I presume they weren’t happy with the previous one’s performance. She never got bitten again. It’s not the parents’ fault, the child is in the care of the nursery therefore the staff should be taking precautions to prevent situations happening as best they can.

Thank you @Neena for your experience

I would talk to the nursery about the 121 sen assistant others have mentioned. I would never approach the parents. Kids are kids and as long as my child wasn’t seriously injured it probably wouldn’t bother me. X