Leave or Stay

I say for that reading.... those two relationships.... are probably one in the same. As a mom and a dad, your relationships will come second. You gotta prioritize it. Especially if you want it to last. Communication with him is KEY. Tell him how you feel. Tell him how you want romance. Tell HIM EVERYTHING. He can't make changes if you're not voicing your feelings. Now! I will say..... if you have voiced your feelings. And nothing is done? Then..... "If he wanted to. He would" You shouldn't have to beg for love.

Ask him to go to counseling with you so the two of you can learn tools to prioritize each other's needs and communicate better. I wouldn't make any decisions until you have tried counseling.

I think as you said you have too much time in your hand hun. If he's a good husband and father, that would be a foolish mistake rather. Your child needs a home with security, and that should be a top-notch priority. It seems like a small issue, and if you discuss it with him in a calm manner, I'm sure he'll listen and improve. Don't break your home for small things. Rather, work on those things and improve. Best of luck.

@Nemra This!

If you're into that kind of thing and have a bunch of time on your hands, maybe it's time to get a new psychic reading? The universe may have updated vibes about your love life now that you aren't visibly a young single woman, presumably in the process of making decisions about your love life on a relatively regular basis... 🔮😉

@Dee we have tried therapy and the results are there but when I’ve voiced my thoughts and feelings it’s rediculed he once said it’s true you don’t know what you have until it’s gone and since I know you’re not going anywhere I don’t see the need to do those things

@Bee we are currently in therapy and many of our issues stem from the way he grew up his past trauma but even so he will act upon it for a period of time then things return to how they were with no romance..

@Nemra I agree with you but what should I do about this resentful feeling? I know I’ve sacrificed a lot for him and I still am but I don’t feel I’m getting the same in return

🚩🚩🚩 Leave. And make him prove himself. For both you and your child

@Bonny I’ve considered it but I’ve strayed away from those type of things now I ask god for more clarity and peace in my heart

@Dee I’ve considered it but if I do I have to prepare for my sons sake

Take your time. Prepare little by little. Do you do shopping? You can get cash back with your payment. $10-$20 here and there can really help for leaving ❤️ do you have family that can help? If not, prepare for hotels for a few days. Find your local shelters of needed etc. It's hard. But I've seen women do it with less preparation.

We both have different love languages me and him. It’s taken years and a lot of reminding and a lot of talks for him to love my fully in my love language. He wasn’t brought up w any physical touch- as most Asians are, I was the same, the older gen Asian parents love through tough love and their cooking. But thats my love language. So I had to teach him, and over the years he’s gotten much better and tries really hard and when he slacks off I remind him. I threw him the book to read. “The five love languages” by Gary Chapman. Get the book, and have your husband read it and take the quiz and let him know you want to know his thoughts at the end. That’s what helped us. Now he’s great, he really tries. For me. As I know it doesn’t come naturally to him.

I have a few thoughts on this and I'll just be completely honest. Sorry if it doesn't sit well with you but just hear me out First off, that fortune reading sounds like it could be applied to anyone. I wouldn't look that deep into it. Dont get in your head about what a third party says in your relationship, especially someone claiming to be a fortune teller. Second. I grew up with a very selfish mother who prioritized her romantic relationships over her kids having a father figure. She left my dad when I was less than 1, and had about 4 serious relationships between then and now. Growing up with a mother more concerned with her romantic life and having different father figures in and out of my life is something I resent her for. She idealized some perfectly romanticmarriage and never was able to fulfill that until later in life. Third, communication is key. Try to make it work. Marriage isn't easy. The love language book is also a bit gimmicky... I enjoy it too but don't base your life on it.

Fortune tellers are all liars don’t ruin a comfortable living for the unknown you never know if u will get married or find love again plus you have a beautiful son to think about please don’t ruin the family dynamics for him he needs a stable home with both mum and dad..love will blossom communicate and seek it though god

I'm not even gonna go into the fortune teller thing because it's so absurd. I also have grown up with a mother who prioritised her romantic partners over her kids similarly to @Brandi and I can never let go of how selfish she was and to this day even though I see that she's trying to be helpful and present I feel like I have a wall between us. Secondly, the grass more often than not isn't greener on the other side... think about this practically because at the moment there are many things you don't need to worry about.. you mentioned finances but there is also your sons safety(non-related men introduced into a family can be dangerous for children), you're both accepted and part of a family while when you look for someone new you'll look for someone to accept you and your son, if you were to try and prioritise him. There is so much more to this but please prioritise your baby.. he can't do it for himself, you're all he has

Thank you everyone who responded I’ve gained a lot of clarity ❤️🙏

I wouldn’t let that fortune hold power over you. Your husband can be either, it all depends on you and him. Have you communicated to him about how you’re feeling in a serious sit down conversation without children? I was honest with my husband about falling out of love with him, he had no idea and since has been more receptive and intentional. Men can be dense sometimes. Therapy also helps❤️

Wow this is a deep post. And totally relate feel free to message me seems like we have the same life . All I know is that I miss feeling happy, and want my daughter to grow up seeing mommy happy. Set a time if things don’t get better by that time then leave. But during that time put all the efforts to make things better so u don’t regret leaving and not doing everything to make it work.

I feel like u sometimes

I can definitely understand your resentment concern, but I think that stems from your feelings of sacrifice. Think from a different perspective that it's not a sacrifice but rather a priority for your child. He loves both of you. As you said, you guys are in therapy. That's a step forward and positive. I'll recommend continuing to work on it until you guys find some middle ground. And please don't ever go to con artists known as fortune tellers and palm readers. They can't even tell a thing about their own future and decide for others, lol. Only seek guidance from true God and no one else. Best of luck.

🤔 I'm the only one on the other side. Are you gonna be happy in five years with him? If you don't feel loved? If your needs are not met and minimized. If you can't share your vulnerability? If you continue feeling small, not worthy? Everybody deserves 💕 love. ♥️ He needs to reparanting himself. Not just on auto pilot. Giving a generational burden on the mother. Emotional maturity needed. Best of luck dear. Big hug to you 🤗 First love yourself 💓

We all get to chose our hard. Nothing is close to perfect. Maybe start with writing down thoughts and needs and then finding a time to sit down and have a heart-to-heart. People aren't mind readers, men especially. Marriage has hard times. Having a kid/s makes it even more challenging so communication is vital.