Strugglingggg

I’m raising two step kids and my newborn. And it’s killing me. It’s slowly taking me out. We have the kids full custody bc their mom was arrested for stalking and harassing me. But now that I’m raising her kids I wish I never pressed charges. This is so HARD. I barely get help with the baby bc he’s always caring for the little ones. And my baby is stuck to me like Velcro. I can’t get anything done. And these kids are bad as hell and I’m literally reversing and having to tech so much bc I’m not going to raise my baby with bad ass kids. I’ve gone completely out of my way to give them love and care and patience and teach them good values but it’s exhausting! I’m like working over time to reverse the fucked up parenting they clearly had before me. And I’m teaching my man how to be a better parent. I’m slowly loosing my mind. And I have to think about going back to work and I can’t pump cus the baby is ALWAYS on me and won’t stay down long at all. The kids are always running in and telling on each other and waking the baby. And I have two needy ass dogs that don’t help the issue. How do people do this shit?! I became a parent of three within literal months. We had to move to a bigger place while I was pregnant and everything in my life completely shifted and changed. And I’m getting resentful of my man because of all of this. The crazy mom and the harassment was extremely a lot too. My whole family was getting targeted. Death threats, property vandalism, the whole 9. Idk who I am anymore and I want to start over. I want my baby but I want to start over and choose to not be involved with this mess.

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Why she was attacking you? Was she his ex wife he broke up with long time before he met you? Or you started dating when they were together?

@Karina we started dating like 5 months after they separated! I was still with my ex when they separated. He was living back at home with his dad bc he left the home for her and their kids. And then I left my ex and moved back home with my mom. We reconnected like two months after I left my ex. She thought he was cheating the whole time they were together so when she saw us posting on insta she claimed he was having an affair with me but that’s not the case at all. I was in an abusive relationship and finally freed myself. and I thought my current man was like a night in shining armor after what I went through bc his ex was very similar to my ex.

We started talking like 5 months after! Dating and getting serious was like months later. He was fighting for custody the whole time so I didn’t expect her to start involving me and then him ending up with full custody

Theeen he harassing me started like a just a few months before I got pregnant. It got bad when I was already pregnant. I had no idea how far she’d take it. I mean they arrested her on like 7 felonies. She made a call stating my full name and saying there was a hit to blow my head off put out on me.

On top of a ton of other things she did

Speaking from experience, it WILL get better and there is light at the end of the tunnel. Perhaps u should talk to ur partner about not just dealing with the Littles but including the baby in with his time that he has the 2 Littles as well. I mean obviously still correct them teach them and guide them when they're in the wrong with things but he can't just parent 2 and then 1 ya know. He is all of their dad and needs to be there equally for all of his kids. Talk to him and let him know the stress ur feeling as well. I hope it helps

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