Child Support?
I’ve been in a lame relationship that I should have ended a long time ago. Of course my BD has SOME good characteristics but he’s constantly broke with not enough ambition to improve his situation, irresponsable, and inconsistent.
Our daughter is almost 5 months now and I’ve been considering putting him on child support. He has 2 older kids from a previous marriage that he spends most of his time with. He does very little for our daughter.
One part of me feels like it’s spite that’s driving me to file for child support. But I don’t think I should keep having to ask for financial support. Babies are expensive and I want everything for my child… infant swim classes, and nanny and some.
What are your thoughts on child support? What do I really have to lose?
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@LaurynThank you for your feedback. He is an electrician by trade, so his lack of income is really just his own lack of effort. Since he lives in California, they will determine how much he owes based on how much he has the propensity to make. Not necessarily how much he actually makes. And yes, I have tried everything. I have given him a list of things the baby needs. I have asked him to pick up her prescription once and he didn’t pick it up for a whole week. I’m just really tired of going back-and-forth. I did it already.
I wish you the best of luck mama! Trust your gut!
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Definitely do what your heart tells you to do with the relationship. Those characteristics you said he has don’t really work well once you have a baby. Just to play devils advocate here, do you think you have to ask for financial support because he doesn’t realize what it cost to raise a baby or how frequent they need new/more things? I feel like guys some times just don’t get it and have to be asked. Also, not sure what type of relationship you want your continue to have but maybe you guys can workout a financial agreement on your own first. Going to court to establish paternity and who gets the baby what days may not ( or may )be something you want to do/pay for. You can always file later if needed. And then my last thought is that a nanny is definitely a big luxury. I think the National is around 2k - 4k a month. Most people even with 2 incomes cannot afford it. If he is “constantly broke” you’ll just have to remember that child support is based off his income.