SAHM and weird work schedule Dad
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@Romina Del Bosque I do all that! I visit family a lot too (they’re an hour away so it’s tough lol). I guess I feel like I do it all yet I never do enough. He’s really good about not making me that way, but I still do. I also feel he doesn’t do enough with our son, but at the same time how can he with be schedule he has 🥲
Can he take some time off to spend with you all? Maybe like a day off here or there? My partner make it a point to give each other at least 3 hours or alone time a week. Basically just time to go watch a movie, shop, or go on a walk
Yes girl I can seriously relate! SAHM also with a 7m old. Dads work schedule is 2am (leaves house by 1am due to 1hr commute) to anywhere from 2pm-5pm depending when he gets back to warehouse after delivering. Basically comes home, eats dinner, showers and in bed by 7 730pm. He does this mon-sat. Sunday only day off.
@Romina Del Bosque he does have 2 days off a week! We typically spend them together but usually it means going out and about or visiting family for the entire day. It’s very rarely a chill day, and when it is, he helps a lot, but then I feel like we need to be getting life stuff done (chores, house projects etc)
I can relate to you 100000% being the sole caretaker for your baby is very demanding but honestly not having your husband there majority of the time might suck but you are truly lucky to be able to spend that time with your child. I’m sure you’re grateful to have a working husband so you can stay home with the baby but it’s a big sacrifice in the relationship that is beneficial for the both of you. He pays for the bills and home while to care for your baby and maintain a healthy and happy baby. I just keep saying to myself is that I’m glad he is working, not me lol
Hubby is working a lot but he should give you at least 1 day every couple of weeks so that you can have a complete day to yourself without having to think about baby. He’s tired, but so are you. Being a SAHM doesn’t mean the work is easy. I am grateful to have the ability to do it but my husband also recognizes that I need a day every now and then. So we make it work. It’s sucks that he doesn’t have a set schedule but even so, if he can even give you half a day on one of those days, it is doable.
My partner has his own business and his hours vary by day. I’m currently a SAHM and I feel this so very much.
@Allegra I am so grateful! It’s just hard to have every day be different with not only baby, but dad too. Sometimes I miss working tho, as I am such an extrovert. But I always tell myself this is best for our son and I’ll go back to work next spring (I sold my condo to afford to not work for a while).
@Jada the problem is, I want to spend time with HIM too, so I never want to leave them 😂 very conflicting needs I know. But people who have 9-5 working husbands at least get evenings with them. I very rarely do, and even if I do, it’s a very late evening and we’re both exhausted.
You are not alone!! My man is out the door by 5am and usually home about 7pm. Sometimes 5pm, but sometimes 9pm. He owns his own business so most weekends he is also working. After the hour long shit & shower when he gets home it's time for dinner and bed. The hardest part for me is to see how much our baby girl loves him and how little time she gets with him.
That’s so understandable! Hopefully once young rest the chance to go back to work it’ll give you a break and back to civilization lol being a SAHM almost feels like your separated from the rest of the world at times. I’m sure everything will fall into place for your family (:
@Casey lol the hour long shit and shower 🤣 yes exactly!! He absolutely adores his dad. I think that’s also a huge part of it, the guilt WE MOMS get for our kids not spending enough time with dad
@Allegra I have hope that by the spring when I’m back to work, it’ll get better. It’s just hard now!
Yesss ! I’m in the same boat girl ! My husband is an anesthesiologist and literally has a different schedule every day and is on call a lot ! The inconsistency really is soo hard ! It’s so frustrating sometimes we are just getting ready to eat dinner or give our daughter a bath and he gets a call and has to go in … I honestly feel like a single parent some weeks and it’s exhausting
This is how I felt when I was on maternity leave. It really helped to get out of the house and meet up with other moms. I did reading time at the library, baby yoga, and walks at the park with moms I met in this app. It really helped get my mind off the time passing by and helped make maternity leave more enjoyable.