I try to but my fiance starts complaining about his knees and it hurting to bend down like that so he doesnāt reallyā¦ but we made a deal that I do bath time and he does bedtime so it doesnāt really bother me as much anymore
We did when they were younger but now theyāre 4&6. So they shower alone or sometimes I shower with my daughter and he showers with our son.
Not weird at all! After my husband is gone at work all day he wants to be around our 10 month old as much as possible before he goes to sleep. He loves watching him play during bath time. Some of the best memoriesš
Give him a job or let him lead so he doesn't feel like a third wheel. I think it's a great idea, but he's going to need to feel like a more important part of it to get him onboard initially. Maybe feed him grapes or something while he directs the washing & playtime. š
My husband and I typically both bath our baby. Usually he washes her hair and I wash her body.
@Ana oh no! Not me taking a bath with her, just me bathing her and him being there for family time. I do shower with her but my parents also did with me until I got too old to.
@Hannah Awww I love that!
@Bonny haha I love this I think itās more of he rather be in bed or playing his game but I will try giving him a task and spilt it with him. Heās a great dad but I just want quality family time especially when sheās playing and doing new activities in the bath!
@Mallory thank you! When he kept saying no I was like is this not normal to do this? I remember my parents did this with my little sister
@Abby thatās a good compromise, my daughter and I are best friends I talk to her all day even though she canāt hold a conversation yet lol. But when he is home I rather not feel āaloneā doing it by myself for bath time but he did just give her a bath with me and it warmed my heart and I did let him know how much it meant to me so hopefully it will be a ongoing thing
Yes it totally normal
Totally get that. My husband is as involved as he can be. Our oldest loved bath time with us. We had a huge jet tub so she would take baths with us. My husband would wear swim shorts so it was basically like going in a hot tub. Our baby is 3 mo and I put his bath on the counter and my husband hangs out while I wash him up. When he gets older Iām sure heāll bathe with him. Feeding, changing, cuddling, bottle prepping, ect he will do it all. He doesnāt understand men who donāt act like an equal parent.
We do family bath times but my baby is still only a few months old
My son is 5 and up to about 3, Hubby was the one that bathed and dressed him every single day while I cleaned up kitchen/lounge or doing other chores. Your husband sounds like heās wanting to avoid Father Time by playing his game or wanting to stay in bed ā¦we both donāt go to bed until kids are in bed everythingās done and weāve finished watching an episode together. He should be able to give the baby a bath, without you. Because some nights Iāve gone out and not home and he has to do the whole routine from dinner-bed. But I guessā¦baby steps. Have him bath her more often while you step out into another room so he feels more confident doing it himself
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I always wish my husband would come in and do bath time with us. He will if I ask but sometimes he will wander away and start doing something else or just sitting on his phone. I donāt think he sees it the way I do. I see it as family time just like you.
@Marissa oh for sure not weird for that at all!!!!
Mine will sit in there with me if there is nothing that needs to be done in the house. Sometimes though I just say to him itās his turn to bath the kids and then heās more than happy to go be in there with them on his own.
We've never done family bath times, though there have been times I've called him through to watch something cute she's doing. Our bathroom is quite small though. I think for us family play time is something that happens in the living room and usually I will do bath while my partner has a short break and then he will do bedtime. Sometimes I'm so exhausted I have a break in the evenings and I miss the family play time, I love it when the three of us get to hang out together!
We always do it as a family unless one of us is away. We alternate washing him each time and then both play - ducks, watering cans, splashing, reading a book etc. He loves the bath and we both enjoy seeing his delight in it :)
I wanted to put other input in here.. my fiancĆ© and I always do bath time together. Our daughter is 4m currently. Heās gone before she wakes up and hes asleep by the time we go to bed. The only time (without fail) he gets to see her active, is bath time. He sits on a chair behind me and watches for most of it but we swap places so he can interact with her too.. I know Iām one of the rare few but in general, Iām more terrified to do it alone. Honestly, kudos to every mom doing it alone. We do what we have to but itās still insanely impressive!
It doesn't sound like it's going to be easy getting him to be in there with you, so I think the only way to get him in there is for him to do it on his own sometimes.
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We donāt do this at my house but when I was younger I took baths with my dad sometimes. He just wore swim trunks in the bath with me and we played as she gets older obviously it wonāt be appropriate but Iād think thatās okay for a few years!