Grandparent names!
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I think you should just let it be and keep the names the same. The 3 year old will learn the difference. I think they sound different enough that if a kid grew up with both, they'd probably pick it up quicker than a 3 year old learning new words, too. I don't think it would be fair to change either of their names after so many years unless the kid started calling them something else himself. You could always say Nani (insert name) and nanny (insert name) so it's easier to differentiate between the two
I’d keep it too if your mum is happy with that name. Both our mums wanted to be known as Nana, now my toddler is coming up for 3, she’s learned their first names, so she calls them Nana Corinne and Nana Viv. I don’t think she knew which one we were talking about before then!
Just keep the names the same but when needed just add their name on the end. E.g. Nanny Lisa and Nani Sarah I wouldn't ask anyone to change their name as I feel like you could offend her and the kids already call her Nani, it seems complicated to try and change at this point. But you could always just try and casually discuss the fact that the name was given to her and ask if she likes it maybe?
The child will choose the name lol honestly my parents had their names picked out but my kids ended up calling them other names and they are perfectly fine with it
I had 2 nannas & my kids have 2 nannas… we used nanna smith & nanna jones.. my kids use nanna sue & nanna sally.. but just call them nanna when with them
I wish it didn’t feel disrespectful to use their first names. “Nanny Pam” and “Nani Kim” just feel too casual, but “Nanny Work” and “Nani Johnson” feel way too formal. I hope the kids just figure out some fun way to differentiate them so I don’t have to lol. Nothing feels right so far!
Why not just go with Granpa (name) and nanny/Nani (name) Every single one of my child's grandparents have a different name and i hate it, there's 4 grandmother's and just the 1 grandad but I get so confused trying to remember all the names because for me it was Gran.
Literally what the ladies above said. Attach a name or location to Nani. We do this with all the aunties and uncles as well, literally call them [location] Aunty/uncle.
when my sister had her first kid, my mom wasn’t ready to accept hearing “grandma” or anything close, so they settled on “the lady” being her title. I’ve kept the tradition, my son knows my mom as “the lady” However in your case I’d just do what my parents did for me & my siblings growing up “nanny ____ (an identifier like last name, nickname, location etc)” or “nanni ____ (identifier)” Like we had grandma “moms maiden name” & grandma “dads last name”