He is struggling with something going on in his life and I’m trying to support him and alleviate as much as I can but my tank is almost empty working and looking after a 16 month old and an almost 40 year old man.
Me and my partner are like this! I feel like nearly every conversation we have ends up in a mini argument. I do think it helps if you can go on a date night and actually spend time together, without being mum and dad x
My partner is like that with the frequent bickering and moods. It could be work stress/ burnout and I know I'l was burnt out too as I still wake most nights and totally exhausted!!. Some men maybe reasonable and happy to talk to the GP or counselling as sometimes it could be a health thing too. But not sure when they dont want to do anything, maybe a break is good like going away for a weekend without the partner so you can get space and come back refreshed...
Sounds like you need a date night/day to reset. If you can, try and get a babysitter and plan for an activity to do together. No phones, no baby talk, just you two 💚
1. Remember that you can’t support everyone else if you’re running on empty yourself. Is it an option to treat yourself to a spa day or visit a friend or whatever would count as a day off for you? If you’re feeling burnt out then you’ll be feeling resentful and that will definitely lead to bickering. 2. Is there anything that could be outsourced short-term or long-term? E.g. I recently had surgery which means I can’t do much with my little one so my partner and decided to eat (reasonably healthy) ready meals as our main meal for a fortnight to save the time on cooking and washing up. We’ve also had some help from friends and family with looking after our little boy. Longer-term, could you get a cleaner or anything like that to take something off your plate? 3. Agree with other suggestions of trying to get some child-free time with your partner too!
Have you tried talking to him about it at all? What do you think are the reasons for the bickering?