Whose right?!

So my in laws always want to spend time with my little girl (6 months) which I have no problem with, they shower her with so much love and attention, spoil her a lot! So they want her to spend the day with them multiple times a week (3/4 full days) and I always say yeah and drop her off or go down with her, but my husband is totally fed up with it, says I’m just a people pleaser and need to put my child first she’s not a toy to be passed around and needs a routine? He’s explained this to his parents and says she can spend one full day with them and on the other days to come spend the day at our house instead however they just start taking it the wrong way and stuff like you don’t trust her with us, what routine she’s a baby? Then he’ll get the silent treatment and It turns into a big argument between his parents and himself, I hate the arguing so I push him to send her, but now it’s getting out of hand and we have the same issue every single week! What do you do in terms or grand parents?

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If you get on with your in laws then i dont see an issue, if they have her on their own it gives you some time to yourself. If gives you someone to trust your baby with if you had an emergency & needed to drop her off asap. Yes they could come to you 1 day but gives you chance to get out the house too which is needed with a baby. If its his 1st maybe hes just trying to be protective and its all a learning curve for everyone. Noone is necessarily wrong, just trying to do what they think is right x

It takes a village! I’m so grateful for my mum and mother-in-law I would explain to your husband maybe do one day where baby goes to them and then a day out together or something best of both, don’t want to annoy them if your planning on going back to work my family have done childcare until I got funded hours and it’s saved us thousands or I wouldn’t of been able to go back and couldn’t afford to do that xx

I would agree something between you and your partner and then stick to it together. I do think that 3 or 4 full days is a lot as my daughter was in a routine before 6 months and this would have not been the best for it. You could say 1 day for your lo to spend with them. This could also give you some time to yourself then if you go out anywhere with your lo you could always invite them sometimes. I do see your partner's point but I also know how much easier it is with a lo when you have a few of you around. I guess she is his daughter as well so you need to agree on how your daughter should be spending her days ect

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