Am I the problem or is it him?
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@Kelly Mae he actually wanted kids more than I did! I love our baby but pre pregnancy it was always him reassuring me .. I don’t know what he had imagined in his head it was going to be like! They do have a good bond & when they do interact with each other it’s great I just wish it was more! I do love my partner but I’m just constantly thinking should I really settle for less.. if I bring it up he makes me feel like I’m over thinking or overreacting.
Going through the same actually. And just decided tonight after a big fight this morning that enough was enough for me. I don't want him to lose her, but I can't keep suffering and feeling un helped unsupported unloved. it's truly not fair. He did the same yours did. Wanted another kid wanted a second chance to have a good life after his first got custody solely of their daughter. Which, I guess should have been clue number 1 seeing as how I also know her and she told me some. But I had forgotten what she told me as this was 3 years prior. But he never stayed and fought. Instead mom came and brought him home. (Different states) but yeah. Idk what they think and concoct in their heads pre birth. But i wish mine would step up more seeing as how when he is actually home and they're interacting it's great!
You're not asking too much for him to help with HIS kid. That is basic expectation unless you two decided beforehand he'd never be hands on with the children. Which I'm assuming you didn't. So no it isn't too much. Every other man on planet earth helps with their kids unless it's baby daddies like this. I'm sorry you're going through this girly. Hope things get better!!