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You are not overreacting or being unreasonable. The children (even adult ones) should not be parenting the other children. I'd ask your husband if he is willing to compensate his son for providing these drop off services. Does your stepson actually want to do this? More importantly, does your husband not intend to have any form of custody when this divorce is final? These are things he has to accept as part of his life as a divorced parent. If he's unwilling to contribute, you may need to find someone to provide the services and demand child support. Have you met with a lawyer yet and established a parenting plan or custody agreement for this separation?
@Jessi that’s exactly what I said to him..that’s he’s the parent, not my stepson. We haven’t done anything related to the divorce yet. I just want to get it over with so I can have all of this stuff documented because it’s as if it’s not enough I’m literally caring for our 2 children and his son, but he won’t even try to hear me out when I tell him how unreasonable he’s being.
I recommend you schedule a consultation with a divorce attorney. They're usually free. It will give you some understanding of your options even if you're not ready to file.
A legal separation even if you don't file for divorce could define custody and child support. If the kids start being late while in "your" care, it could become a custody issue so you should protect yourself and your kids.
@Jessi thank you, that helps a lot!
Nope. You didn’t conceive those children with your stepson. They are your husband’s children. Your husband is their father. So your husband, needs to get their father. Not the kid he conceived with another woman. Him. Period.