Aita???

Was he holding the pillow on the baby’s face or playing like peek a boo, also does the baby like it? Just trying to get an idea here.

@Allexys she was sitting up but laying back and he was like balancing it for a few seconds no longer like like 3-4 and she didn’t stop crying or cry harder but it sure didn’t help and I understand he was just trying to distract her but he’s not seeing my stand point

I don’t like that all his “distraction” tactics involve covering her airways. That’s super cringe.

@Ashley thank you freaking thank you but I’m the one making him out to be the “bad guy” CUS YOU ARE TF???

I would be freaking out too tbqh. Baby can’t really move out of the way themselves if they get uncomfortable or can’t breathe

Also why did he think that would soothe her? Does he not kno how to bounce/rock a baby 😭

@Victoria I’m just glad I wasn’t trippin cus he almost had me thinking I was really blowing it outta proportion

@Victoria he was trying she’s a fat girl in her heart and screaming is a understatement when she wants a bottle lol

Side note: she may be uncomfortable with the temperature in the house. I know mines likes to be more cool and will get a bit fussy if too hot. Also what helped us with fussiness over wanting to be feed was pre made bottles in the fridge and a super fast bottle warmer. Sometimes by 7 months they are ok without the milk being warmed and if formula feed then using room temp bottled water will suffice. Standing in the doorway or on the porch would also work as a great soothing method… there are certainly other things that can be tried first other than face covering, even if it’s in a playful or “mistaken” way as he claims…. Let him know you don’t think he’s a bad parent but that his methods make you uncomfortable and to respect your requests as her mother about the safe treatment of yall child.

@Ashley I’ve tried the past 5 other times I told him that that wasn’t the best idea and it’s not like he doesn’t know what he’s doing he’s got two kids already

I know how frustrating that is. Me and my partner got into a lot in the early months on parenting preferences. I had to limit the amount of time I asked him to watch or help with the baby and he eventually started making sure he did things the way I requested. Sometimes you gotta show them better than you can tell them. It was more on me during that transition period but I had to put my foot down with respecting what I wanted for my child.

You’re not “making him out to be a bad guy”, the fact that it turned into a fight instead of him just stopping doing something he doesn’t need to be doing after you explained the risks and problems behind it makes me angry for you

Why would anyone think the way to stop a baby crying is to cover their face??? Even without the suffocation risk, that’s just likely to scare baby. Pick her up and soothe her if she’s crying!

That’s not safe and those aren’t distractions… distracting a baby while crying would be to sing or blow gently on their face to give them a relaxing breath. Not covering a babies face. Especially when they are crying. This is a huge suffocation risk while they are crying because they are sucking more air and have the potential to hold their breathes.

He shouldn't need telling. He surely can fathom for himself that a blanket over the head, or a pillow in the face is aggravating the situation more than anything else. Would he like that done to him when he is upset and grumpy? I think he is playing dumb and knows he is being a tit. It would worry me to leave him alone with her if he can't stop doing this or work out why it's not a good thing. X

I read that and my heart DROPPED! Like… wtf is wrong with him? I would be FIGHTING him! Try and put something over my babies face again! Or we’ll see how well you like it!