Is this the end?

Been with my partner 9 years. Had a LB a year ago and I just have no desire for my partner at all. Don’t want to hug/kiss not really interested in what he’s doing he’s just getting on my nerves everything he does irritates me. I feel so so sad because our relationship has always been brilliant I’ve always felt our love was so deep but I dunno. Since giving birth I just have nothing in me anymore.. we had sec the other day not that I wanted too but I just felt so bad for him cos it’s not like he’s done anything wrong!! But I just cried when he fell asleep because I just didn’t enjoy it n I just really couldn’t be arsed for it. He comforted me and said I shouldn’t have done it and if I really feel that way I shouldn’t force myself to do something he wouldn’t have minded etc and he’s just really trying I can see in his eyes each time he goes to kiss or hug me his heart breaks because I just reject him. He asks me all the time what can he do is he doing anything wrong he does so much for me always compliments me does anything I ever ask but why do I feel this way!! Will this ever go away? Or is this the end?

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Hi hun! Sending you hugs. Sorry you feel this way but I’ll say don’t give up yet. Sometimes things happen and I’ll say maybe try seeing a therapist? Deep down you want to feel again those feelings you had for him? Do you want things to go back to what it was before ?

I would recommend the above and also talking to your doctor and getting some blood work done. You could be dealing with postpartum depression (yes even a year after birth or more), or you could be having thyroid issues which can impact libido and mood/energy in general. I don’t think your relationship needs to end, he seems like a great guy, so maybe just suggest taking some time to work on the root cause of this.

It’s common to feel this way. I’m in the same boat but was with my husband for 18 years and our son was born the day after our anniversary. Married for 10 years and I have zero interest in him whatsoever. We don’t have sex because I never want to. He tries and always cracks jokes towards me but I don’t find them funny. It’s sad because we were literally best friends and now we’re just strangers

Are you exhausted in all areas. For example mentally, physically? If so it could be because of that. I girl resentment towards my partner because I feel like although I only work part time now I'm expected to sort our 2 year old out like there's no get up and go in him and his the one that's always tired. I'm almost 7 months pregnant with our 2nd and hate the fact that I lost my mum 3 months ago and I don't feel like his ever cut me a break . I just have to keep gping and going and I'm exhausted. I hate hearing how tired he is as he works 4 on 4 off nights. Meanwhile I feel like im in jail because I can't even get a shower without being watched by someone. I have no desire for intimacy with him because I'm so exhausted .

Following because in the same position x

@Christina🤱🏼🍂🌮🍕🥗🍦☕️♈️ friends to strangers hit home 😢😢

@Sam I do think since I went back to work it’s gotten worse, again like you I work part time I find I’m shattered 24.7 🥴 which isn’t helping as I don’t want to be touched at all either I’m in the same boats he’s on nights so I do all nights then get up with LB then go to work come home sort him out I don’t really get to sit down until 8:30/9. I refuse to go to bed at that time because I feel I have 0 time to myself so I try to stay up till 10 but I struggle!

It’s tough. My inbox is open 🫶🏻

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