Feeling guilty for just having the one

We have decided to just have one baby for lots of different reasons and it is absolutely right for us to not have any more but I can't help feeling guilty. I worry he will be lonely. When I see him playing on his own I feel bad. He is such a happy boy and very sociable. He goes to nursery 4 mornings a week and we are always out and about. I just feel really guilty

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Speak to some adult only children, they rave about being an only child usually. Your son is social, sees other kids and as he grows older, just let him invite friends round more. Honestly there are so many happy one child families. Don’t feel guilty. We will also be just the one xx

I have decided to only have one (for lots of reasons) but although it was the right decision for us, it was still a tough one to accept. I don't feel guilty because I know she is getting the best life we can give her and she has lots of friends from playgroups. You are doing the best by your family ❤️

We decided to have only one child (August '19 baby) but then had a surprise with our Jan '24 baby 😅 Don't feel guilty! My eldest isn't very kind to her sister at all, they rarely play together unless it's fighting, and I'll be honest, I find it really hard to give them both my full attention, as they both seem to need me at the exact same time 🙃 You know what's best for your life. Yes they may miss out on some experiences, but they'll gain ones they may never have got if they had a sibling.

Same! I want one more kid becuase i feel guilty hes not got that sibling bond, but where I am in my life, my age, and the lifestyle we want to live, it doesn't suit more children. So I'm trying to accept it. The BIGGEST thing for me is that I struggle to give him the attention he needs, he's at nursery 4 days a week, and that would just get divided even further with another one. And it feels unfair, so one for me too! X

Im an only child and have always LOVED being an only child and getting me mum’s undivided attention 😜 never asked mum for siblings either, I was always happy just playing with my cousins on special occasions and stuff. Im the opposite at the moment, im pregnant with my second and I feel guilty I won’t be able to give my first born my undivided attention like my mum was able to give me 😰

I was also only grandchild for 15 yrs in my dads side and for 26 yrs in my mum’s side so no close first cousins of similar age either, only second and third cousins but that was enough for me not to be lonely 😊

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