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Oh my god, my first instinct is throw out the whole man haha. My spouse was truly invested in his bond with our baby from day one so even though we were EBF those first few months, he was doing every single diaper and was always next to the bassinet during the evenings. The second we decided to introduce bottles, he was all over it. Maybe tell your spouse some science if just trusting you isn’t an option? EBF or pumping (basically any kind of breast feeding) is the equivalent of walking 8 miles every day. That’s A LOT of work! And that’s without all of the mental and physical energy it takes to care for and worry about a baby this size. I don’t know what will get through to him if just trusting you isn’t an option, but I wish you luck! You deserve a much better support from your partner!
I’m currently experiencing the same thing. I’m a SAHM & an undergrad student. I had to stop breast feeding because I wasn’t getting enough help to keep up with my schedule. Although I only have my 7 month old, we have 4 together & it’s at the point that I’m realizing he’s not going to change despite the numerous cries for help. You just have to do what’s good for you.
If you trust him with your son for more than 15 mins even if he’s crying maybe let dad have more time with him to grow the bond and so dad can see being a SAHM is definitely work. Probably the most important and hardest job out there tbh. Breastfeeding alone is like a full time job if you ask me! Haha! If he’s given more time with him maybe he will see that being at home with the baby all day is A LOT to manage. I’m not sure if you have the funds to hire someone to help with your business but even one day a week may help. Or maybe give out work to other family members that could help with the business? Or becoming really efficient and fast at whatever you do to minimize the time it takes you focus on your business. Seems like you’ve got a lot on your plate mama.