Yeah, I would much rather a sorry and something that shows he was unreasonable... I'd love the cleaning to be daily as it seems he can do it and quite well and quickly, but he also went to the shop and brought me chocolates and cookies and ordered me my favourite food tonight. But, no sorry... he is now doing the admin as (as normally happens on days we need to get things done) baby didn't have second nap so he is forced to do it whilst she is noisy and climbing on us. This is why we agreed first nap. So he can't concentrate reading the contract .. I'm so confused with his behaviour, like it threw me through an emotional rollercoaster of wtf just happened
Just offering a different perspective here. Maybe what you were asking him could’ve still been answered after he sent his message. I don’t think either of you were wrong in your feelings, even though yelling shouldn’t happen (that’s a him issue). Next time I’d say ok how long do you need? I just want to make sure we can finish this by the end of nap time.
Sounds like knows he overreacted and this is his way of apologizing without having to say it out loud. Let the emotions settle and bring it up later. Tell him his behavior was confusing to you and that you want to understand it as well as discussing why he had his outburst in the first place
Yes, I definitely see the other perspective. We always have to wait on him to be ready and usually he will just continue and avoid doing the important thing we need. He shouldn't had gone on social media, as he knows he will get significantly distracted. He opened the laptop to start our admin... I wasnt interrupting something he was already doing. Usually, when he is "waiting for me" it's because he wants me to do it all whilst he just relaxes. I was doing all the paperwork already (including his part), and we also had online documents to do, separately. He ended up working until late as he kept having to ask me questions. Nap time isn't long any more, so I really wanted to just get it done. By the time I did my part, the baby was already waking up. Yes! Thank you everyone.
Idk what other traits he has, but he might have undiagnosed adult adhd.
This is something in the process, we have already waited 2 years for an appointment and his next stage is the end of the month. I also had been waiting 2 weeks to get this paper work done, and we already had been sent a reminder. It was a do it now or be homeless situation. But, I needed him to take action, too.... His actions have unfortunately lost us a significant amount of money, him losing jobs, him delayed in things like insurances because he took two years to sign up for something... I usually have to force him or wait for an emergency for him to do something... the ADHD appointment took two years before he went to it, too... and it was only after he lost thousands on a course he paid for but never did. He is also extremely worried about this appointment, so he has therapy too, as he hopes it is ADHD as he knows his procrastination and hatred for anything admin etc has caused a lot of pain in his life. He is afraid he won't be diagnosed with it and that it is a him problem...
You did nothing wrong. He is man enough to go off and to yell, then he should be one to apologize as well.