Mum guilt

I need some advice. I am really struggling with day to day life. My baby is a pretty good baby really, but i’m still so overwhelmed. I find it really hard to be motivated to do anything… cleaning/tidying etc when she is up in the daytime so i do everything at night when she goes to bed. I feel like i need to be constantly sat with her or playing with her, so i get nothing done. I feel so guilty if i leave her to play for a few minutes while i go to the toilet or make a drink. I constantly look like a ‘new mum’ if that makes sense. No make up, hair a mess and comfy clothes. I’m not looking after myself at all, i feel so run down all the time. My baby is 4 months and i’m no further forward than i was when she was a newborn. I don’t know what to do. Are you taking your babies around the house with you while you do things? I just can’t get my head around it and its driving me mad.

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Have you got a carrier? Whenever I need to get things done I pop my boy in the carrier so I can still do things round the house without having to leave him down somewhere. But if I don’t use the carrier and want to pop him down for a bit I like to use his play gym or he loves dancing fruit on YouTube, It’s so handy when I need to quickly get something done. - It’s so so hard to find the motivation to do things for yourself, I feel filthy most days I just can’t keep up with it and the mats in my hair from constantly having a mum bun and not even thinking to brush my hair is something else🫣🫣

I second Becky Aspecially the mum bun It's all part of the process!

I was like that!! I have a maxi cosi rocker seat in my bedtoom so she can sit and be with me in my room while I get ready. in the nursery i have a play mat, in the kitchen I have a baby bouncer, in the livingroom there is playmats, swings etc so everywhere I go she can be with me as she hates when I leave the room! I completely understand how you are feeling !xx

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I have a baby chair, door bouncer and jumperoo that baby goes in when I need to get on and do something and I move them around depending what room of the house I’m in. Sometimes though baby isn’t always playing ball and does have to cry for 5 mins if I’m in the shower or something they are completely safe I can see baby but they just want picking up it is ok to let them cry for a few mins as long as they are in a safe place

From what I've read it's good for them to have their own playtime so my son has a bit of time on his playmat while I do other stuff. It gives them time to practise playing. When they're a bit older you can get a play pen xx

As others have said, I have a play mat, a swing and I have just bought a little chair as my little one loves sitting up now. I try and set a timer for 10mins every wake window and challenge myself to see how much I can get done lol. It does depend on how the night has been though...if it's been a tough night, I just accept its a lazy day and enjoy Netflix and snuggles! Be kind to yourself x

@Chloe ah sometimes I wish mine would let us sit down and watch some tv and chill 🤣 he absolutely screams if anyone sits down with him he likes to be on the move or playing 🤦🏼‍♀️😩

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