Would this bother you, or am I overreacting?

So, my daughter is in kindergarten and will be cheering before an upcoming football game as part of a mini cheerleading camp she's gonna be participating in. The key word here is BEFORE the football game. It's not gonna be halftime, it's not gonna be after the game...the mini camp performances will be done in the hour leading up to kickoff. Anyone who wants to leave the stadium after the mini camp performances will be welcome to do so. I sent my MIL an FB message earlier this week to give her the details; it's still two weeks away, but I wanted to give plenty of notice to the people we're inviting. MIL read the message and didn't respond for two days. When she finally did reply, she said they're not gonna come because...they don't like football. The woman who consistently complains about not seeing her granddaughter very often is passing up a chance to see her granddaughter just because she doesn't like an activity that is not happening until AFTER her granddaughter's performance is over. BUT she said, and I quote, "I'd love to see her, so send me a video." Maybe it's petty, but I am absolutely NOT going to be sending a video. Because to me, if you really would "love to see her," you'd be coming to see her in person. Would this make y'all mad, too, or am I overreacting? Does anybody else have a similar issue with their in-laws never really showing up for your kiddos?

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There might be several parameters to consider. Did you tell her that it is before the football game? Did you tell her that you will leave after so that she can spend some time with you? Is it very far from her place? If you don't want to send a video, it's your right not to. If you want her to spend some time with you and it was not very clear in the message, maybe you should tell her and see what she responds. She only knows what you told her in the message. Maybe it was not clear enough that you plan to leave and stay together afterwards.

People are strange and I gave up trying to understand them a long time ago. I have a similar issue with my mother. She always says how much she misses my daughter since she started school but then passes on invites to see her. Don't get worked up about it, she may have stuff going on that no one knows about

@Fatima I did tell her it was before the game, but I didn't say we'd leave to spend time with them after the performance, because that's not what we plan on doing. We will be staying until about halftime. But I never told her she and FIL had to do the same. My in-laws live 20 minutes away and regularly attend things like weddings for family members they rarely ever associate with, but it seems like any time it comes to being there for their granddaughter, they suddenly can't.

@Kimberley to me, if she had things going on, that's what she should have said. There's a big difference between, "We're not coming because we're busy," and, "We're not coming because we don't like a game that is not even part of what we were invited to."

I would just tell her no the video and if she really wants to see her granddaughter, she can come see her cheer before the football game

I’d be annoyed too, just make an effort to watch your grandchild doing something special for goodness sake!!

I would just answer back. "oh that's sad you re missing the chance to be present. It's gonna be great watching her" And never send any videos even if she asks. Just ignore.

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