Childcare funded hours

Hello all! Stressing atm! I currently work 3 nights a week! My partner just told me he’s got a new job in 2 weeks doing nights 🙄 I can’t afford night childcare so my only option is to leave my night shift job… but the kids will be out of nursery too! Any mums in the same boat as me? What’s the best way to go about this as I’m loosing the plot. Already gave up a job I loved for his work commitments and he’s doing the same thing again making me out of a job. Any advice would be gratefully appreciated.

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Don’t quit he wants to change his hours so tell him he will have to figure out a childcare solution

@Reagan I said this to him and it’s like he’s giving me no options or even bothered to help :(

Wow that's so selfish of him to do that without discussing it with you

Why does his job take precedence over yours? I wouldn’t quit either. He knew you worked nights, he’s being an absolute dick by taking a job he knew would conflict with your working hours. Is he usually so selfish and controlling?

@Laurie he thought I needed to get over it when I said it was selfish of him 😭

@Neena I don’t enjoy my night work but it was the only way to keep my girls in funded nursery and he’s messing it up again x

@Kat (Katrina) 🫶🏾 you need to sit down and have a proper talk with him. Find out where his head is at because from the sounds of it, he has no respect for you. I don’t know any man who would be taking on a new job KNOWING it conflicted with his partner’s job/hours. You are meant to be a team, so you make decisions together. By letting him get away with it once before and giving up your previous job, you’ve allowed the floodgates to be open on his piss-taking. Were you not reliant on your wages for the household income? Or is he expecting you to find yet another job? And what about when he pulls the same shit again in a few months time? Where does it end? If he’s expecting you to be a SAHM and not send the kids to nursery and his entire salary is going to cover everything - is that something you want?

@Kat (Katrina) 🫶🏾 He's being completely unreasonable. Does he not care that your child will miss out on nursery?

Don’t quit he can get a job for during the day stand your ground you’ve already left one job for him

You don’t get childcare funded hours if only one parent is working. I currently don’t work and my partner does but we aren’t entitled to funded hours because of this

As the ladies have said. Completely unreasonable. Together as parents you both need to find a solution, not just you giving up another job the second time. Stand your ground and do not give in!! You already work nights, why would he get a job working nights when you already do so? So selfish!

I would not quit my job, as he should have discussed it with you first. It's his problem to fix

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