Strategy/Plan with Hubby for Baby’s Arrival

I’m 37+4 and based on reading and speaking with our doula/antenatal teacher, I’ve tried talking to my husband through some questions on how we can best prepare for when baby comes. This includes things like, plans for cooking/eating, things we both need to feel human and have some self care, potential shifts or things we will each do, especially when he goes back to work. He thinks it’s all pointless, that we will figure it out and nothing needs to change or be figured out (although worries he won’t get enough sleep). I’ve gone about it with asking him his thoughts and what would work for him and then I’d input my feelings. He just doesn’t get it and thinks it’s unnecessary to think and talk about this and have a flexible plan or idea of how we’ll manage the 4th trimester and onwards. It’s getting really frustrating and I wondered if any other couples have managed to figure things out successfully (even if things changed and were tweaked) as I know it’s needs to be flexible.

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We played it by ear. Everything is so unpredictable for the first few months we preferred not to set any expectations and then get upset at each other. But we’re both proactive people, we know stuff needs to get done it was just a matter of figuring out when amidst chaos.

I would really recommend that you do lots of meal prep now, if nothing else. 😊 Fill up your freezer with nourishing meals as much as you can - you will really appreciate them when the baby is here and you have no time and/or energy to cook. My fiancé was doing pretty much everything around the house for at least the first couple of weeks while the baby was cluster feeding and we were both figuring out breastfeeding and I was up with her pretty much all night every night. But I'd say don't put too much pressure on yourselves, as long as everyone is fed and laundry is being done (there will be lots of dirty clothes!), everything else can wait. Good luck, you will be okay! 😊

My husbands a bit like this...but in a good way. I am sometime trying to "plan" when realistically we need to just see what happens, he agrees he will pitch in, do shifts whatever but we can't really know what that will look like until it actually happens so we cant exactly put together a rota. Some of my NCT friends have started having thier babies and have said it all just comes together and dads act on some instinct and support on request and it's been fine. Try not to worry too much xx

We haven't got a plan as such, I've done a fair bit of batch cooking to help with food. We will figure out the rest as we go I think, you never know what kind of baby you'll have, whether or not you'll end up breastfeeding or bottle feeding, this would change plans drastically for us as I'd be doing all the feeds if it was BF but other half can do more if it's bottle fed x

We never had a plan. I personally don’t think you can plan for something like this as you never know how it’s going to be. I get your husband on this.

We figured it out as we went. I did make sure we had meals vacuum sealed and frozen & we discussed a plan on how to contact him if baby came earlier than due date and I/Him were at work at the time. Other than that, we played it by ear

We didn't have a plan. One thing I'd like to do differently when our second born arrives is split the night into shifts. Like 8pm to 1am and 1 am to 6am or something. So we both can get some rest

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