Missing old life 😞😞
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This is me every weekend 🙈
Solidarity, I think everyone feels like this (at least some times). Especially if you don't have help/someone that can watch kid while you do other things. Sometimes we do get baby out even if it messes their schedule and deal with consequences, otherwise we'd never go anywhere, as there's no help and getting a babysitter is not sth I feel comfortable doing now (also a financial strain)
This is me today! I could just scream/burst into tears! I want to go out because baby gal won’t be as grumpy/miserable but also my house is a tip & I feel bad for not doing housework… the decision is overwhelming 😭 sorry, this does not help you! 🫣♥️ hopefully tomorrow we will feel better! Also, my baby is also the best thing ever & I love her so much! But it is HARD! Xxxx
Sometimes it's hard revolving basically everything around naps, particularly if it can result in a miserable baby ❤️ however, I do 100% think it's important to still enjoy outings every now and then, even if it doesn't entirely fit in with the 'schedule' - does your LO nap out and about (pram or car seat) or just in the cot? Honestly, it might just be an adjustment that day and then back to normal the next!
I live my every day like this 🤦♀️ I'll put the dishes in the dishwasher and then go out... oh now she needs a nap, while she's napping I'll do a washing, she's awake let me now hang the washing, now she needs lunch, now I need to clean lunch, oh now she needs another nap... then it's a rush to the shops before I have to rush back home to give her dinner, bath and bed. And I feel like I can't do anything I want to do because now when I leave, she screams and just won't play without me there. She literally just wants me sat on the sofa watching her or she's too stressed to play 😭
Like the others have said, missing your old life is a sign that it was a happy life. It’s overall a good sign that your baby isn’t a make or break thing you’ve brought into your world, they’re just a lovely addition! I like to look at it as era’s. Right now, I’m in my Mum era. Yes, we won’t be able to ‘pop out’ for a while, but we will have moments we didn’t have before, like going to the park is SO much more fun than it used to be, Halloween is going to be more fun, Christmas etc. It is hard when you feel like you’ve lost your freedom, but like everything in Motherhood, it’s all a phase. There will be a day where you can pop out for breakfast, but you’ll miss when your baby used to nap 2/3 times a day 😂 I just try to think, how lucky am I to have enjoyed my youth, enjoyed my freedom, and now to be able to raise a little child into this happy life!
I 100% feel you, and mourning our old lives is ok. It’s really hard not to! Sometimes being spontaneous is really really hard and at other times it’s the best thing ever. Nap times, routines etc are important so I totally get it! Eating out is just not fun now and it was my favourite thing to do before. Some things we have found ‘new ways’ and it’s all about finding our feet. It’s hard though.. so hard.
Just to say - I completely understand. You are not alone!!! The better your old life was, the harder it is to let go. I used to LOVE my life with my husband before and missed it desperately int he first two three months after birth. I think it’s a good sign in the long run, despite the short term pain. It means the baby never filled a void, but entered an already content and happy life. It’s much much more sustainable