Does your three year old tidy up?

I don’t know if I’m expecting too much of my three and a half year old.. She never tidies up after herself and says she’s “too tired” which is clearly just an excuse. Sometimes I just do it when she’s at nursery or when she’s gone to bed but other times I’ll try to get her to help. This morning she asked to get her kinetic sand out so I said of course. Once she’d had enough I asked her to tidy it up and she said no. I was cleaning the kitchen so wanted her to do it herself and insisted but she flatly refused to the point of when I said if you don’t tidy it up, it will need to go in the bin. Her response was ok. My questions are do you expect your little ones to tidy up after themselves? How have you taught them? Am I expecting too much? Should I always tidy up with them?

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My daughter does but not always, which is probably my fault cause sometimes it's just easier to do it myself 😂 When I was teaching her to help tidy up, I sang the tidy up song and we did it together x

Once I’d finished cleaning the kitchen I asked her if she’d like me to help and she said yes so we cleared it up together. This is the only way she will clear up, if I help. Is this normal at this age?

I usually make it a game. Sometimes he tides up on his own without even being asked, sometimes I ask him and he says no. If it's a no, 5hen that's okay,for now , but we don't get anything else out until it's done x

We have to make it a game together before she gets anything else out. It can be difficult when you've got other stuff to do, but I try and engage her in my jobs to help me, e.g. when I cleaned the kitchen this morning I gave her a handheld vac and asked her to vac the floor while I did the worktops etc...

😂😂 only if we make it a game, and even then it’s 50/50. They make more mess than ever at this age, I’m sure of it. Always find my girl wants to be ‘helpful’ when it’s an unhelpful time, like sweeping with the garden brush if we’re cutting the grass and are busy

Hi I ask my little one to tidy his toys up and he knows they need to go away but he doesn’t always do it, I make to make it fun for him so it’s more of a game then a challenge and being told to do it, sometimes it may seem like a lot in that sense but I only asked him to do it a couple of times then Everytime he seen the same toys or stuff on the floor he knew it was time for us to the play the game and make it fun to put the stuff away, hope you figure out the best way for you both x

My son does 90% of the time, but we have always had his toys in boxes so he has only ever known that if he wants to get another box out we tidy the first one away first. Now he’s the first one to point out if the room is a mess 😂 x There are times he point blank refuses or asks for help as he just doesn’t want to do it on his own, but overall he’s good at it x

Funny enough my child who’s recently turned 4, doesn’t like leaving things out so she clears her toys away when she’s done playing with it . She’s also got into a habit of doing her bed when she wakes up ( she tries to) but then I do it for her properly after 😂😂 On the random days she will also make a fuss and say no and have the audacity to ask if I can do it instead but in general she listens to her mumma 🩷

Some days he’ll tidy up when he’s finished playing without me asking, others he’ll flat out refuse if I ask and say ‘I just need a relax’ 🙈 some days if I’m cleaning he’ll ask to help. I never know what I’m going to get 😂 I do ask my children to bring their plates through when finished with their food, which he does, and I do ask them to help me tidy their toys away, I like a tidy house after dinner time 😁 I’ll do most but then say ‘can you put away the paw patrol’ etc. sometimes he’ll say no, or he’ll do it happily, or I’ll make it a game ‘and time him’ I have 3 children and think it’s good for them to have an understanding and appreciation of their things being kept nicely and doing the odd thing to help around the house!

My youngest who’s 3 will not tidy up when he’s been at nursery all day so we make it a game and see who can tidy up the most as he’s normally tired by this point. When he’s not been to nursery I give him his little jobs to do as he’s really into having jobs to help around the house, something silly like wipe down the table, sweep up in kitchen/living room etc. He absolutely loves his little jobs and that helps him to understand that he needs to tidy up after himself. All children are different, it helps he has two older brothers who love to help me out around the house but I don’t make them do it. I’ve started using a marble jar, when he’s tidied up or done something I’m proud of him for doing then he will put a marble in his jar and when he’s filled it up he can choose something of his choice within a budget. All children are different 😬❤️

My little one does. She loves tidying up and helping with chores in the house. Even asks to 😂

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