You are completely valid to feel how you do. I would not cope and you shouldn't have to just put up with it. I think if it's upsetting you to the point of considering divorce, you need to sit your husband down and explain how serious this is.
My mother in law in similar but not this extreme. I’m sorry you have to deal with this. It makes me so mad to see what my husband allows. And same as yours, they don’t treat me poorly at all but my MIL is passive aggressive and then denies having ulterior motives to things she says. She also will ask if she can do something, if it’s not needed I say no thank you, and she will proceed to do it anyways
@Rosie thank you for listening and responding. It’s definitely hard to bring up why they upset me when they aren’t I guess outwardly doing anything mean. I will try to talk with him again- I don’t want my resentment towards his parents to ruin our relationship
@Stephanie sometimes I wished she were just outwardly mean so it would be easier to explain to my husband why her and my FIL drive me insane. I’m sorry you experience similar. The passive comments I feel like only I can hear, my husband must be immune to them lol
The "boo boo faces" and baby voice literally made my skin crawl. 🤢 I don't even know what to say anymore.
@Sarah yup…. you and me both 😭
I feel like just reading this has pissed me off, let alone experiencing it!
Exactly!!! It’s almost worse because then you look like you’re the one “taking it personally”
Omg I could of written this myself, exactly the same I am dealing with 🤯 it’s horrendous
@Ari you should’ve seen the messages they sent my husband when he tried to set boundaries before we had a baby…. For our first puppy. They showed up to our dog training class to watch… unannounced and uninvited. Then told my husband he’d never see them again then because we asked they don’t just do that… lol.
@Stephanie I feel so bad for my sister, who does have a MIL that is horribly mean. We both compare our situations not knowing whose is worse 🤦🏻♀️
@Newbie Im so sorry you’re also dealing with this. It makes me feel a lot less crazy that I’m not alone in believing these behaviors are absurd. I’ve gaslit myself so much about my relationship to the in laws because they’re not the typical mean nasty and spiteful type. They’re just overbearing, no boundaries, and had shitty helicopter parenting skills. Yet they want to tell me I need to set boundaries in the future with my child. Like alright. Lmao.
I think they love your husband in their very unappropriate way. Yet I think if they are good people seating all together and have a real talk about how they must respect some space is needed. That would be very sad for them to have a broken contact with they son and family. I think they want the best but they sounds immature... They are family and it seems they drive you crazy bit they seems to be good and loving people. I would just have a talk. Maybe also familiar therapy. Good luck.
@Victoria I know, I feel bad complaining when I know I could have it so much worse. All I do is hide, I know I can’t keep hiding for much longer😂 I’ll remember the tip to let them take my daughter when she’s a crazy toddler LOL. Ty for listening!