Imbalance
My boyfriend and I have been disagreeing since I’ve had the baby because I felt like he didn’t help nearly enough. He stayed home with us for two weeks and has gone back to work this past week. He feels like I dont do enough cleaning and I feel like he doesn’t help with the baby enough.
Tonight I got to the point where I was so overwhelmed with the fact that he wasn’t helping..baby was crying and not once since he made it home has he asked me if I needed anything or how I feel. He’s been cleaning since he got home 4 hours ago. Not once did he check on the baby..I asked him to watch the baby while I took a shower and after that he expected me to take her back while he continued to clean. He tells me I should ask for help but like this is his baby too and he should want to take initiative right?? I shouldn’t always tell him to do things for his child.
Does anyone have any tips on how to handle a situation like this?
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You're 3 weeks pp and he's moaning that you're not doing enough cleaning?! He needs to sit his arse all the way back down. There are things more of a priority, cleaning for 4 hours is insane. As long as the house isn't dirty then in that first month or so you accept that the house isn't as pristine as it was before a baby. I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this, when you're healing and trying to look after a baby it's the last thing you need.
Am not going to be the popular thought here... but he went to work, came home and was cleaning and you wanted him to take care of baby, so he can continue on cleaning? Thats the problem?
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You shouldn’t have to ask for his help..obviously yall just had the baby and having to clean and take care of a baby is a lot. When he gets home he should allow you a shower and spend time with his child..that’s bare minimum yk..it’s great that he’s cleaning but being alone with a baby is a lot..u deserve a second to yourself too