@Elle definitely why I opted to not move in with him when he offered just for babies sake. I'm getting my own spot hopefully before the baby is born.
Do you have any family nearby? It is essential to have a village after your baby's birth. Keep your friends close and let them know you will need their support. Motherhood can feel lonely at times. While you can have people to help you, the first few months are all about you. As for the father, I would suggest counseling for both of you. ♥️
@Susana since dating, or taking whatever, he has started Couseling, he also starting walking and going to the gym. It's like I can see him trying.. but I'm nervous that it's going to take forever.. maybe too much on my time line and not his. I've never dealt with a man who has been through what he has, and I really want to be here for him, but it gets hard.. I do have family and friends around, I sometimes I don't feel like I can talk to them about these intimate things.. maybe I should look into counseling for myself too. 🤷🏽♀️ couldn't hurt
I believe this is a great idea. I began counseling for myself when I realized that I was reaching my limits with motherhood, my professional career, and my marriage. It is much easier to be a father. I felt envious of my husband's ability to sleep, go to the gym, work, and not worry about housework, cooking, and spending time with the baby only when he wanted to. I expected him to have the same level of dedication as I did. Or at least let me have the same life he had. However, through therapy, I learned how to manage my frustration and communicate it better. I hope you also find someone to help you deal with your frustrations. We cannot change other people's behaviors, but we can change how those things affect us.
It will likely only get worse from here, I would just focus on preparing to be self-sufficient.