How would yall feel?

It’s valid for you to feel a type of way about it however it is a really important part of the grieving process to attend the funeral and honestly i don’t think you have any right to stop him or make him feel guilty for going

I agree. It’s frustrating sure but you cannot put him in a place where he feels guilty for attending a funeral.

He should take the 5 year old so you only have the new born.

Taking a 5 year old to a funeral is risky, and could be a little traumatic. It’s a few hours of his time I think you could manage (assuming you don’t need a c section)

Thank you all, I don’t mind him going it’s just mentally preparing him to not be here , is just causing me stress, just thinking about it

Totally understandable, going from one to two children is a big adjustment and the funeral timing isn’t ideal.

@Allexys exactly, it’s already hurtful because I can’t go and support, so it’s just like the timing couldn’t be worse 😢

Hi ! It’s not wrong for you to feel any type of way, simply express your concerns. Perhaps have a family member or friend visit / spend time with you for a few hours if possible?my advice life happens and not just for us but for our partners too in his case losing someone close is tough and if you have someone who can step in and help you I’d encourage to allow your partner the space and time to go through those emotions including driving to the funeral. I hope this helps 😌

You're totally valid in your feelings. It's very overwhelming. However, I agree with the other advice given. If you can take some pressure off of your partner by arranging some support and help for yourself for that day he will appreciate it and you will benefit from the support. I wish you all the best with your induction and birth, and sending healing energy surrounding your partners loss ❤️

Could you have a friend or family member come over and help? Or could they take the 5 year old out for the day? I'm sorry for your families loss. I'm sending love ❤️

I think you are right to feel this way. However I understand why he wants to go to the funeral also, since they were so close. Is it possible to get someone else to help you while he's away? Maybe your mum/his mum or a sister? If not even a nanny during the day to look after your 5 year old could help. I would try to find a solution so you both are fine honestly

I think it’s okay to feel a little way but at the end of the day you shouldn’t make a big deal. It was his cousin let him pay his respects and say good bye. Going through a loss is not easy. It’s not like he’s not going to come back.

Thank you , we are trying to have a plan because all his family will be at the funeral , including his mom and others and we both don’t have any sisters, and my mom will be out of town for other reasons so we trying to see, I think on my end it’s more of a stress type thing rather being mad for him going, because I know he needs that closure! Thank you all for the advice, condolences, healing and kind words ❤️❤️❤️

Do you have any friends that could stay with you? Just keep the 5 year old entertained while you take care of yourself and your baby?!