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If it bothers you then let him know. Personally idc if my man does because vise versa he lets me use his money. But he also knows what I’m comfortable with when it comes to amounts on my card. Make boundaries clear if you think they been crossed.

@Brooke he gets over $400 a month while I get $16 a week which has to go for my food

What did he use it for? Why did he take it? If he grabbed your card because it was close by and his wasn't and it was just for something small then, maybe that would be OK but depends on the circumstances. How did you find out?

I checked my app and he did buy something small but he never lets me use his or even touch it. I only get $16 a week for food and everything else I need. He also gets at least $400 a month.

I don't understand why your married and money is seperate or how either of those dollar amounts work in the real world for amything

@Samantha we had a commitment ceremony so we are not legally married.

I'd ask him why he chose to take your card without asking then, especially when he would be against you using his? Then see what his reason was and ask him to replace the funds and not do it again. Depending on how he responds, would inform how I'd respond back about this one

My advice is don't legally marry this man. If yall have separate money and he has thay much more than you then why the fuck is he spending yours without your permission. I would be sharing money personally, you are basically married just not legally. Does he not want to share money? If that's the case then why is he okay with spending your very little money but you can't touch his money? Are these numbers what is leftover after bills? There's very little information here to go off of for advice.

@Samantha yea I have so many questions about the $ Change the pin for starters if he knows it if you don’t want him using your cards

@Alexis so I only get $16 after paying bills because I am on social security that's another reason why I don't legally marry him.

Do both of you pay bills? Have you tried to tell him yall should share money so you can have more than $16 a week to live off of?

Okay but you're acting married. I haven't done either and "just" have a boyfriend and we have joint finances. Wouldn't waste time dating someone if we couldn't have that

He’s not your husband in the legal sense so I agree this ain’t right. Is your name on all the bills? If so then he’s just taking advantage of you.