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My partners dad bought us a pram as a gift that came with a car seat. We have recently upgraded the car seat but our baby still fits into other car seat for now. We can use the original car seat as a spare for if the baby is travelling with others, however my partners mum (who is separated from his dad) has decided she wants to keep the car seat and my partner has given it to her. I am annoyed about this as it means that only she can use the car seat and no one else can use the spare one. My partner has stated that each family member should instead buy a car seat if they wish to have the baby travel with them and the car seat is not to be shared. The baby has never traveled with his mum yet and has been in my family members cars many times but I am now left to get another car seat my family can use. The new car seat is fixed onto an isofix base and can not be fitted in with a seat belt and is not an easy swap over like the original one is.

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Why would she need a car seat if the baby is not traveling ever with her? I would say you’re right. It would make sense for you to keep it and lend it to whatever family member has the baby. Also it’s good to have an extra in case of an emergency.

He shouldn’t have given the car seat to his mum and should have it move with the baby. I would insist that the car seat is returned or he can buy another spare car seat for others to use. Obviously when your baby is with his mum she will be given the car seat and have it returned once your LO comes home. It should NOT be an expectation for others to buy a car seat to look after your child. Your child your responsibility to purchase items for others to use.

That's crazy.. I'd be annoyed too. Your husband will have to buy another spare seat then or have his mum return the other one. Can't expect people to buy their own car seat for your baby that's wild.

Why didn't he talk to you about the car seat to begin with? I'd be pissed because they ain't cheap

Just say no, it’s not really up to her to decide. It’s your belongings and it’s not like she bought it.

my mother brought a baby cot before I had even got one myself and my daughter has never stayed with her (or ever will).

the way i think of it is that the car seat belongs to baby. just like a diaper bag travels with the baby, the car seat should too! just un-anchor it and put it in the car of the person who will be traveling with baby.

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