Anyone struggling with loneliness and a sense of dread for the next day on an evening?

Absolutely! That’s why I’m on this app lol

Yes

So glad it’s not just me 😢 don’t know how to get out this rut/headspace x

I don’t know either 😵‍💫

If you need a listening ear to vent to, my inbox is open!

What keeps me going is the prospect of coffee and baby giggles. I would otherwise go insane spending 11 hours a day conversing with only a toddler and a baby

100% verified. We all seem super alone & without a community (unless we are lucky). Think on this: motherhood is 10x harder now than it was less than 100yrs ago AND we have Less/no community now in comparison to before transportation got to be so big. My grandmother, born in depression era, said that “motherhood is loneliness.” I told her that was sad, but she said “it’s true.” Think on that… they had More support back then and the job was easier… and she still said it was lonely!! I feel like motherhood is the biggest life test- like Buddha facing down Maya or Jesus facing down the devil… everyday we are pushed past what we thought was our breaking point. Pregnancy was difficult, but surprise- breastfeeding is harder! Everything is hard and you get no break, no time to yourself (well, I guess you do if you have at least one person like a husband/partner or a really good friend/family member). The first 6 years are supposedly the hardest when it comes to sleep. Sleep over friends.

Yes, motherhood is much lonelier than I expected.

You choose to see it as lonely. Get out of the house and go to play groups. Build your community. I live in a small town of 7,000. I've made new connections since being a mom. Going to family events in my town. I've also connected with the women in my life on a whole different level, hearing their birth stories and learning more about my family history and the history on dad's side. Choose to see the good side of motherhood.

@Amanda With all due respect, your response is very dismissive to the experiences of many moms including the OP. I’m happy for you that you’ve made so many close friends and feel so supported in motherhood. You’re extremely lucky in that and your experience is by no means universal. Simply “choosing” not to feel lonely doesn’t actually work and it doesn’t make a difference in whether or not you end up making close mom friends. From my experience, it’s very hard to make mom friends when a lot of them don’t even return your smile or greeting at the park or library or are far more concerned with scrolling Instagram than meeting anyone new! Also hard to make mom friends when the vast majority of women on this app don’t return messages or ghost you when you suggest meeting up lol.

Also it takes time for most of us to develop a level of closeness and trust where we feel comfortable being vulnerable about our struggles. Most moms probably aren’t opening up about their PPD or difficulties with their partner or how stressed they are as a SAHM when they just met someone 5 minutes ago. And if you somehow can’t go beyond the acquaintance stage with people (because they ghost you or are never available to meet up or only seem to be interested in surface-level chit chat even after a year or more), then yes, it’s very lonely not being about to open up about your feelings and struggles with other moms.

@Rebecca Not aiming to be dismissive. I see a lot of posts like this on this app and pointing out the solution. That most also aren't willing to get out. If it requires effort, most people won't do it. They'd rather hide on this app and hope for an easy friend.

@Amanda Well, that hasn’t been my experience in making mom friends, and I take my kids out every day. You have no idea whether the OP goes out every day or the effort she’s put into making mom friends. Sometimes if you can’t provide a supportive comment, it’s better to scroll on by ✌️

I recently had a severe depression episode and told my husband. We since have prioritized our mental health and have made some big changes to our schedules and routines. He was feeling depressed too. Local library storytimes and children centers/ events have saved me during the day as well as park trips where I can see and interact with other parents in person❤️You’re not alone, what you’re seeking is seeking you too

@Amanda I go to a playgroup group every day and have done since the start! Unfortunately they only last 2 hours max. There’s at least 12 hours a day I have to fill….. In regards to making mum friends though I do try but majority of the groups here (UK) a lot of the people are grandparents caring for their grandchildren. Not quite the same…..