Child support?

I’m a 24F and my fiancé is a 28M. He has been struggling with mental illness and was using shopping as self medication. I told him it was an addiction and he wouldn’t listen. He just kept saying he had it under control and our bills would be paid. While I was at work Tuesday I got a notification that the car payment over drafted into our savings because he didn’t put money in the account. When I told him the shopping had to stop and asked how much debt we were in he said he’d rather pack his bags and move out than tell me how much he spent. He begged me not to keep our 20 month old daughter from him. I talked him down and convinced him to let me look at his finances. $35,000+ in debt.. we have joint accounts and separate accounts. I drained our joint savings so that he couldn’t spend it. (I moved it to my personal savings and will move it back when he’s mental stable) I’ve been recommended by a tax person and my therapist to put him on child support even if we’re still together because it’s a protected income. That way I can pay all the bills but not pay them all from my own check ( because I can’t afford it all on my own ) Has anyone else done this? Or been in a similar situation? I love him and I know he’s struggling and I don’t want to just dip out. He wasn’t like this before. He’s my fiancé. Someone I said yes to spending my life with and created a family with. I feel it’d be wrong to leave at the first major inconvenience

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You're doing the right thing, don't let people talk you into a decision that you may regret. Talk to him and tell him what you were told and see how he reacts to it but always have a back up plan just in case

Your going about it the right way. Talk to him I had a similar situation with my boyfriend (also been speaking on marriage but things like this holds things back) he’s already child support for his first child and it has been hell on earth for him and I feel bad because child support don’t care they will garnish everything from the dads even if they don’t have it. It’s not worth the many court visits. Once you go into court there’s really no trying to get them out life, they become very permanent and things change.

@Angela @Mama Taty so we have already talked about it as a couple. And I explained if he agrees to 250 a week I’d be able to handle all the bills while he handles the debt and that $1000 is protected and paid first and the debt collectors can’t take it. He agreed to it and says it’s a good idea. I’m just not sure how exactly it works since we are still together and don’t plan on separating.

Ahhhhh okay make sense

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