If this was me, I would use his financial stability to get myself to a place where I loved my body and loved myself, whether thats therapy, gym, courses about health and wellness, I would use his money to progress my own life. I wouldn't mention that I know about the latest cheating. I would let him keep supporting my family and the kids so they're safe. I would then start to make plans, apply for any benefits I can, start to save (if you have a way to do that in your situation), apply for housing, pick a place to move in to. I would have a plan for me and the kids and then one day suddenly pack and leave with a note saying thanks for helping me kick goals in my own life, now I can move on to better things x I had a friend who left her partner suddenly, took her 2 kids with her but she didn't plan!! She ended up couch surfing with her kids, staying in a caravan, sleeping in someone's shed for a while, THEN getting into government housing. Don't just leave, have a plan for your babies.
And always keep in your mind that he doesn't even deserve you. You are a woman, you carried 2 beautiful babies, your body has changed of course it has, and it's for the better, your body created life and you cant do that without changing. You have given your man 2 beautiful babies, you deserve to be treated with respect and love above all else. If he's going to continue to cheat on you, use him, and get out. You don't want your kids having a role model like him.
@Karina I am religious (Christian) which has also made it more difficult morally to divorce him. There was a point when I was 19 that I found myself and really loved myself and how I looked and I need to get back to that because that me never would've ever stayed for the first hint of bs. Thank you so much I really needed that!
@May thank you I really needed this to. I deserve to be treated with Respect ❤️ period!
You’re welcome love. God bless you. Remember God loves you! You are his daughter remember he loves you so much he knows how many hairs you have on your head! Because you are his daughter and he loves you so much he doesn’t want to see you sad. A parent wouldn’t ever want to see their daughter in your situation! Cheating is a reason for divorce! If you have evidence get a lawyer after that it’s an easy win and if guys have anything together you will get most of it! Or everything!
Idk if you’re religious or not I mean you say you’re married so I’m guessing you are. I’m not trying to be mean or anything but I feel like your self esteem is really low love. You don’t deserve this trash! Yes honey he is trash. The sooner you come to terms that he is trash the sooner you will start living again. Pop the bubble. I would say since he took advantage of you. You could do the same I’m not saying cheat on him! But save up money if he gives you money take a little bit out and put it to the side. Start making a plan. Soon your babies will grow up too. Personally stay as long as you need and save up! Don’t let him play you! You play him! We are women come on we are the more intelligent species! You are the prize remember that! He’s not! You are!