Functioning Toxic?!
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@Emily we’re a great team in a sense that we have no support around us and we have 6 kids so we support each other! I hold it down when he needs a break and he does the same for me. We both prioritise our household above anything else… we are each others backbone and safe space. In regards to impact on the kids they hardly see us fight what they witness is the odd petty disagreement but never raised voices (he is so calm and even when I raise my voice at him he never raises it back at me) there’s no violence or breaking things or anything extreme like that. We are both good parents and our kids are happy strong grounded kids. When I say toxic I mean a lot of the things that seem ‘acceptable’ in other marriages just isn’t for us and the things that are acceptable for us and our dynamic I know will be considered toxic. The example I gave of how we argue and the things said…. We also don’t entertain male/female friendships just out of the respect for each other… things like that.
My husband and I are like this, he calls us chickens cos we're either fucking or fighting 😂 we've been together 10 years
@Natalie I can very much relate to this! We’ve together 7 🤣🤷🏾♀️
I think my first response is to ask a few questions - What makes you a great team? - what impact does your relationship have on the kids? (Even if they don’t see the toxic behaviour, they will pick up on elements) - could counselling on how better to communicate work for you both?