@Salma I am also qualified to work with children... all mine are close in age 😂 it's funny cause the only issue I've had is exes or in laws... yet ironically I've got friends who ask me what to do and for advice. I never over step boundaries, like unless someone asks for advice I'll leave them be.. as people should. A lot of people do not respect others boundaries and truth be told its horrible being in that position... My MIL had 2 kids for 40mins and said she'll never have them again because they're "too difficult". They weren't difficult at all, the baby was due a bottle when we left, it was made and handed to her and she point blank refused to give the baby the bottle. The baby is not difficult, they're hungry. 🙄 Glad to say she will NOT be watching my kids again.. xx
It's our babies and our wishes and instructions need to be followed and respected whether by own parents or inlaws, if they don’t then they shouldnt expect to be even left alone with them. I would never step on another mum toes unless I see a hazard/health and safety issue and still I would be approach gently and not with judgement as some people simply just don't know certain things can be an issue. I was being asked to add sugar in my babies milk to fatten him up, I said absolutely not, look at you all with diabetes because of doing such things telling me to encourage this and potentially mess up my child's health early for the sake of chubbying them up. Same for adding salt in food, I said no, his little kidneys can't handle.
I think it's not always about them thinking they can do better than you, I mean for most people I've seen their work (their own kids) so simply I don't think so but some things are habitual. For example my baby has issue regulating his temperature and inlaws keep covering him and he gets over heated when I have specifically told them not to especially during summer. This includes my Father in Law who has zero experience raising kids as didn't raise his own was just goto work, back home eat and sleep person, never even played with his kids and my SIL who hasn't had a child for over 16 years as well as her husband who didn't even raise his own child either seem to think they know better than me with 3 kids who are 4 years apart and I also have babysat and been a child minder for a very long time prior to having my own, I also keep up with any safety, health changes etc. I also raised my own siblings, so I think I am most qualified than they are for my own kids, would rather my child not suffercate ty very much.